To be annoyed when DP gets simple stuff wrong?

[thaithai]

DP acts so dim sometimes, it grates on me and I try and be tolerant but it's like watching a child half the time. It's such a turn off.

This is a note he TYPED AND PRINTED (becomes significant later on!) for DD for school:

"to the teacher. minithai has not done has not done her home work but she tryed but she cant because our printer is broken is broken so i cant print it for her but she will finish it as soon as the printer is done i will ring around today to try and get it fixed and will print it then thank you mrthai (father) "

Bare in mind he PRINTED THE FFING NOTE ON SAID BROKEN PRINTER!! how dopey. And the English in the note itself was just embarrassing.

Another thing is that he over-pronounces words as he's reading them. I don't know why he does this, he refuses to admit he has any problem.

For instance, he was reading a description of a coat to me yesterday:

"Look, it says warm and water proof to provide maximum cOmFOORRRT"

I was like "what?? maximum what?" and he replied "comfort" really normal! so why did he say it wrong the first time??

Another example:

"I think DS will love this xbox game ... its called Create a Dun Ge On"

I said "create a what??" and he squinted at the screen and replied:

"Dun ... JI On"

I took a look myself ... "Dungeon?"

he said "yes, DunGeOn"

It really, really grates on me.

Especially when I know he can say these things properly.

On a more serious note, what could cause him to do this when reading??
He has a load of books which he said he wanted rid of. I asked why and he said he'd read them all. I'm now starting to wonder if he's getting rid because he STRUGGLED to read them??

[belgo]

Oh dear I was just about to say YABU and then I realised he printed out the 'excuse' note on said broken printer!

As for his reading, it does sound like he might have a problem, have you discussed it with him?

[kinnies]

Dont be such a bitch! He has trouble reading. I would rather have trouble reading than be a total dick.

[cory]

The printer thing is just classic: bet that will be doing the rounds of the staff room for years to come!

That is totally different to sniggering about reading difficulties that the poor bloke can't help: he was deliberately trying to deceive the school and too dim to pull it off.

[borderslass]

sure he's not dyslexic, its quite a common problem that many people hide.

[junglist1]

rather you than me.

[skihorse]

Why are you pissed off with your husband when it was your daughter who had failed to deliver what she was supposed to?

[coppit]

I would be cross about him saying the printer was broken and then sending a printed note in. Makes you look pretty dishonest.

I can understand he might be dyslexic/similar. That is no excuse for not thinking about the contents of (and checking) a note that you are giving in to a teacher.

[thaithai]

He shouldn't have been making excuses for her anyway!! She should have either done the homework or she should have explained to the teacher why she didn't.

[Merrylegs]

Please give us some more examples. Your irritation is very funny. Poor bloke.

[paisleyleaf]

Perhaps your DD asked him to, and he somehow thought he was doing the right thing.
I don't think you should use up too much energy being annoyed that he can't read so well or gets stuff wrong. Trying to change him would be like asking him to be the colour blue.

[UnderneathTheStream]

The over-emphasising words is common with people who have spelling problems ? it was often used with pupils ? get them to say it out loud how it is spelled. Etc
When I can?t remember how a word is spelled I sound it out like that.
Maybe it became so ingrained it?s now an unconscious habit?

[BertieBotts]

Sorry, I think YABU. My ex was a twat and yes, I have vented about him plenty on here but I would never take the piss out of his reading, writing and speech problems. Yes I found it frustrating to communicate with him but I don't think it's appropriate to point and laugh on the internet about his bad spelling and grammar.

However the note printed on the printer, that is quite funny. Hope he has a sense of humour and you can laugh about it together though.

[lucyellensmumagain]

Well clearly you don't like him very much, just leave him if he is that much of a twat!!

[ginnny]

I feel your pain (up to a point).
My DP is dyslexic (undiagnosed but I am sure he is) and is terrible at reading, writing and spelling but I wouldn't take the piss out of him for it.
It does drive me mad at times, particularly when he tries to type estimates/emails out himself and I have to redo them because he is too stubborn to admit he can't and when he reads road signs completely wrong and gets annoyed when I correct him. But then I am a secretary and can be a bit pedantic about some things so I annoy him too I'm sure.
The printer thing is very funny though .
Presumably he has always done this over-pronouncing thing. You should be used to it by now.

[Katisha]

btw it's "bear in mind" not "bare in mind".
hth

[MadameDefarge]

hmm, think we've come across OP before and her DP....trip trap.

[TrillianAstra]

He is a twat to have made up a lie to get your daughter out of doing homework.

And a moron for printing out a note saying 'the printer is broken'.

You are being rather nasty about his English though.

[ProfessorPoopyPants]

Oh dear. Is kinda important not to have contempt for your other half, can you not focus on his good points? He might genuinely have dyslexia, rather than just being a bit dim I did Engl Lit and work as a writer, when I met dh he told me he had only read two books in his life: "But they're so brilliant, you must have read them," They were Silence of the Lambs and Silence of the Lambs 2.
I just realise can never have poncy Literature conversation with him. But he is amazing keyboard player, while I am tone deaf. I think he feels the same when he says "Listen to this amazing chord sequence" and I have no idea what he's on about.
Is not be all and end all. But if you think he is stupid, then that could be a problem for your relationship.
The printer letter thing is completely wonderful though, bet it is on the staffroom wall now.

[pjmama]

I too am a raging pedant, whose DH only has the vaguest grasp of the English language. It's a source of constant irritation!! However, it is MY problem and not his and I need to get over it and learn to love him just as he is! Aw, bless him

[cathcat]

My DH speaks badly e.g. he will say 'I seen...' instead of I saw, he says them when he means these or those. It really irritates me and I used to try to correct him. NO POINT! He cannot unlearn this. His mother speaks the same way, no surprises there. Not sure why I'm telling you this, but HTH.

[WorzselMummage]

My dp says 'Toorlet' for toilet. It gets right on my tits.

I'd never take the piss out of him for it though. He rips shreds off me for my inability to add up though but hey at least I can talk

the printed letter is genious !

[violetqueen]

Oh,I thought this was going to be a thread I could really empathise with.
My DP tried to put oil in the car via the dip stick holder.
And that was after I'd shown him where it went.
Agree with other people,contempt not a good indicator for long lived relationship.

[GetOrfMoiLand]

PSML at violet's DH for filling the car up wrong - the dipstick

Feel a bit sorry for OP's husband, poor sod.