To be annoyed with DH in a cafe

[Nyx]

He thinks I'm unreasonable, I think he is!

This has happened yesterday and today. We go to a cafe, dd(3.11) in tow. I'm getting sorted with a table, dd wants to sit somewhere different, we're getting coats off etc. Meanwhile, DH is up at the counter asking for a cappucino and a cake - before I've had a chance to decide what I want! I think he's far too impatient, he thinks he's just hungry and why should he wait for me!

I should add that if he's not starving hungry then he does wait until we've all chosen before ordering.

AIBU? It's not life threatening, I know...!

[bronze]

No you're not
Wouldnt lose sleep about it though unless he always thinks about himself and forgets ou both

[differentID]

I think he was a bit rude.

[MillyR]

That is very annoying. Does he always leave you to sort the kids out when you are out?

[TheProvincialLady]

Of course your DH is BU. So you have to get your DD sorted etc while your DH orders food/drink just for himself because he is starving? Poor precious. Next time you should go straight to the ordering counter and choose something extremely tasty while he has to see to your daughter.

[RedCharityBonney]

He is B a bit U. Unless he wuld genuinely feel it was ok for you to turn the tables on him if YOU were starving. In which ase don't lose sleep, just make sure you get the special treatment sometimes too.

[AnyFucker]

a bit ungentlemanly and rude, tbh

turn the tables next time, and insist that he sorts dd out while you just look after yourself, the dolt probably just doesn't realise

[geordieminx]

Other way round in our family - dh takes ds and sits down, I order for us both as he can never decide. Works very well as I am a control freak

[TheFallenMadonna]

Blimey. That would make me cross. He couldn't wait for a couple of minutes? Or was he Making A Point (God I hate it when people do that...) about changing tables at your DD's request?

[KurriKurri]

Sounds like his instinctive behaviour (hunting cake) over rode his learned behaviour (good manners).

[satc2bringiton]

YANBU

[Nyx]

Rofl Kurri - I liked that

Thank you all. As suggested, I will not lose any sleep over it as most of the time he's one of the good guys. This one little thing, happening twice in two days, had bugged me and he appeared to genuinely not know why I was so annoyed! I've told him he WBU and I have proof

[satc2bringiton]

However can I just point out that you are really lucky to have a DH that will go in a cafe with you. My DH justs wants to rush home and complains about what a waste of money having coffee out is etc

It's a luxury I only with with my mum now!

[crankytwanky]

Jeez. I'd be anoyed if a friend did that, never mind my beloved DH.

He wouldn't dare! He's been known to carry food in casemy blood sugar drops, as you would with a toddler, and talks of "Mummy needing a feed"!

[juneybean]

Is he five? Can he not wait 5 minutes for you all to get settled?

[SixtyFootDoll]

YANBU
He is rude and selfish.

[MrsCadwallader]

Yes, he is BU. However, I will confess that I too am very very unreasonable when hungry, so I can kind of see where he is coming from. Which is not an excuse, but I do know that if I'm hungry, I need to eat NOW so I can stop BU and start being fluffy and nice again.

[Angelcat666]

YANBUHI

[kinnies]

Poor manners.

[TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied]

If either DH or I see to ourselves before the other/children we say 'alright Jack?' I can't remember where it came from but it makes the point clear and we usually end up laughing and apologising. It just means 'oh aye, you're alright, looking after yourself' sort of thing.

Your husband was being unreasonable but I think it's a man thing TBH. I think their minds go 'cafe...counter...food...drink'. Where as our minds go 'what does child need? What does DH need? What do I need? Right, now what did we come here for?' IYKWIM.

Waffled sorry.

[waitingforbedtime]

yanbu

[aendr]

Totally: It's a naval term. When they climbed aboard a ship using a rope ladder, the sailors would climb aboard and then the rope would be pulled up. The last sailer over the rail would say "I'm alright jack, pull up the ladder." Jack for Jack-Tar or sailor.

Nyx: your DH should be getting food for everybody while you settle your DD and should get your order before deserting you.

[kinnies]

paninied
We say "pull the ladder up Jack" or "youre alright Jack!" We have no idea where it came from!!

[bronze]

we say alright jack too (not dh but parents)

[TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied]

Ooo I wondered where it came from!! I thought it was just us lot who said it