I really don't know if I am BU on this one or not. But atm I am fuming, but not surprised that he could be so bloody inconsiderate of my family.
I got asked to work extra last night and in the run upto to Christmas I need the money. PLus I have already said no to every bit of overtime offered and had to miss 3 shifts due to childcare problems. And I have only been there two months.
My sister, who has 3 children by 7of her own all under 6 agreed to look after my two (both under 6 also). DH arranged to finish work early so he could collect them at 7pm so that my sis could get her three bathed and bed by 7:30 as they all have to at school/nursery by 7:30am this morning. So that my sis can get to work at 8am. DH knows this.
He rang her at 7pm to say that he just got off the bus and was going to his mums to see if she needed anything from the shops. It has been snowing here and is very icy and his mum is elderly, has osteoperisis (sp?) and a broken wrist, so my sis understood that and didn't mind. After all his mum only lives around the corner from both her and his mum.
At 8pm he still hadn't turned up so she rang him and he said he would be two minutes away. at 8:15 she rang him again and he claimed to be on his way to her house and told her where he was (which would have took less than a minute walk). He eventually turned up at 8:40pm. No apology, just told my sister that his mum had been upset and he needed to be with her.
His mum lost her first born GC earlier this year, so obv the run upto to xmas will be upsetting for. My sister understands that. But he could have least rang her and let her know so that she could either bring the dc to him, make other arrangements for them or tell him sorry but he needs to come and collect HIS children.
y sis is lovely and would probably have told him not to rush and then rang my mum to come and help her.
As it her DP had to miss a pre booked and pre paid for gym class, she didn't her dc to bed untill 10pm, neice is knackered for her last day of school and cried all the way there and my sis had to spend £6 getting herself and her boys to the nursery she works in today.
She didn't get to sit down and relax untill nearly midnight because she had packed lunches to make and clothes to get ready for the next day as well as a bath herself.
Understandably she no longer wants to look after my dc, which means after xmas I am screwed as far as childcare and might have to leave my job.
So AIBU to be utterly furious with DH?
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ShinyAndNew · 18/12/2009 14:35
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