to be irrationally irritated by referring to people the wrong side of 30, with a couple of kids and a lot of emotional baggage as a 'bride' or 'groom'?

[moondog]

[dearprudence]

I've never heard this term used. What does it mean?

[AvrilH]

Depends. Is there a tiara and a meringue involved?

Are you wearing them?

[2shoes]

yabu as I don't get it

[JodieO]

I don't get it either

[groundhogs]

Oh lord, can someone please explain it to me, I really don't have the energy for another 'comfort'-style thread...

[lindsaygii]

I think it might mean that they are desperardoes out to get married to anyone that will have them. But I'm not sure. And I'm only spending so much time on it cos I'm too tired to lift my hands off the keyboard so I'm stuck here all night...

[sparkle09]

not another confusing thread, theres been too many, cant be arsed to try and work it out,

[southeastastra]

i quite like seeing oaps getting married and being described as the bride and groom.

you misery moondog

[YanknCock]

What's the point of asking if you're being 'unreasonable' if you've already put the answer ('irrational') in the title?

[JodieO]

Will there be any clarification or are you going to leave us guessing?

[nickschick]

uh??
meh

[WickedWench]

Well I'm 42, been with DP 25 years and have a 22 year old DS. If we do ever get married, which will probably only be to ensure pension inheritance or something, I would quite like to be described as the bride I think.

What do you suggest I should be called?

[Cheappinkfizz]

what terms would you use then?

[overweightoptimist]

Not sure what you mean but if a woman is over 30 with kids and is getting married I would probably not describe her as a "blushing" bride. But would call her a bride, yes.

[lindsaygii]

re : blushing, or not..

Well, all those traditions are just paid lip service these days anyway. Wearing white is meant to indicate the bride's virginal status.

Not completely accurate at many weddings I don't think..

[theyoungvisiter]

"By Cheappinkfizz Fri 27-Nov-09 22:23:15
what terms would you use then?"

The old bag and the gaffer?

Think you are being a little bonkers moondog - if someone is getting married they are a bride.

It's like saying you are annoyed at someone over 30 being described as a daughter. Just becuase you associate the word with a loved up 20-year-old, doesn't mean that's correct.

[overweightoptimist]

Yes, and "giving the bride away" is pretty weird too, as on the whole women are not viewed as men's property in society any more.

[JodieO]

"Not sure what you mean but if a woman is over 30 with kids and is getting married I would probably not describe her as a "blushing" bride. But would call her a bride, yes."

Why not? And why over 30 with kids? Would 29 be ok? Not sure I'm getting the logic here seeing as very few brides/grooms are virgins when they marry, regardless of their age.

[theyoungvisiter]

"giving the old bag away" has a much more sprightly ring.

I agree giving away is outdated and sexist, but that's a whole different ballgame, really isn't it? Nowt to do with the word bride, as such.

[JodieO]

While we're at it, wrong side of 30? Would be younger imo hehe :p

[overweightoptimist]

Because I think the expression "blushing brides" relates to brides who were expected to be virgins, same as the whole wearing white shenanigans.

[lindsaygii]

Jodie ha ha, yeah, wrong side of 40 too, while you're at it... heh.

[theyoungvisiter]

Question - I got married at 29 with one child. Was I a bride? Or not?

I wore a white and brown dress (prettier than it sounds) to symbolise my besmirched innocence

[overweightoptimist]

Dunno, moondog needs to come back and explain her OP!

Your dress sounds lovely

[theyoungvisiter]

But is the whole wearing white=virgin thing not UTTERLY disgusting and sexist and outdated and generally horrid?

It's only one step away from waving the bloodied marriage sheet out of the window on the morning after really, isn't it?