to consider leaving 5m DD in hotel room witgh monitor while we go to DH's work Xmas meal in the hotel?

[sassyhopper32]

As the thread title says, my DH's work is having a Xmas meal in a couple of weeks at a nearby hotel. The only way that we could both go would be to book room overnight and have DD in the room and take monitor. I am going to find out from the hotel exactly where the meal will be so that we can specify room as close by as possible and we would also check on her periodically as well as using the monitor. They don't have a baby listening service or babysitters etc.

We don't have any family nearby who could babysit and the only people we know locally will all be at the same function. We haven't been out together without DD since her birth and I haven't been out at night at all. Is it totally a no-no to even consider this? DH has no reservations, but I think it's maybe different for blokes.....and one of his friends and wife have also said that they're doing same thing, which doesn't make it wrong or right IMO.

[uberalice]

I wouldn't do it.

[SoWhat]

I'm sorry but it's a no-no for me. I would miss it and let DH go on his own if I couldn't get a babysitter.

[rubyslippers]

if you are happy with it then do it
personally i couldn't

[nickytwotimes]

I wouldn't personally.
You can't hear well over a monitor at a busy restaurant.

[thighsmadeofcheddar]

I would do this, although lots will probably say they wouldn't. We've done it in the past.

[susie100]

I personally would be worried about a fire as this happened to a friend of mine (baby ok but very hairy)

Is there anyway you can club together with the other family or families and get a babysitter for all the babies and have them in the same room? Might end up being cheaper as well as you sharing the cost of the room.

[TheUsefulSuspect]

You intend to have a baby monitor on the table at a Christmas party?

Is this a wind up?

[FabIsVeryLucky]

Will it make any difference what people say as you will get both sides.

IMHO 5 months is too young and I wouldn't do it. If you have kids and you want to go out you get someone to sit with them, or you can't both go. Just the way it is.

Our eldest is 8 years old and we have had dinner out twice though now we get the odd night off as the PIL take them over night.

5 months is just too small to leave in a hotel.

[whoisasking]

I wouldn't do it, but you are probably going to get a pretty even split of answers.

[VinegarTits]

Can you not hire a babysitter for the night?

I wouldnt be comfortable doing it, would be on pins all night and wouldnt enjoy myself

Do you have a video monitor or normal one?

[wannaBe]

no.

You won't be able to hear a monitor in a busy restaurant.

It's just wrong IMO.

[cory]

I'd take the baby in a sling and be prepared to leave if it caused any problems.

[Francasaysrelax]

I don't think I'd do it. I would either:
a) get a babysitter
b) take the baby to the party in her pram (which is a fairly accepted practice where I live now)

[Sassybeast]

YABU. Odds of anything happening are remote but she's way too little. She could vomit or choke and you wouldn't have a hope of hearing her if you are in the middle of a christmas party. Tiny risk but still a risk is a fire. Just not woth it IMO

[SpringBlossom]

I wouldn't do it. 99% chance nothing would happen. 1% chance something would happen and you'd never ever forgive yourself.

[RockBird]

Not a chance. It's how it works when you have children I'm afraid. If you cannot get suitable childcare then one of you doesn't go. It's tough luck. DD is 22 months and DH and I have been out together twice in that time. Such is life.

[bogie]

No chance, sound's alot like what the Mcanns did and look what happened there!
Not worth the risk imo

[notwavingjustironing]

Another no from me I'm afraid. Sadly sacrificing attending DH's rubbish annual Christmas Do was one of the sacrifices I made as a mother.

Give it a miss and organise a night out in the New Year when you can get a babysitter (offer to reciprocate for a friend or something).

You can then enjoy the evening and relax.

[cakeywakey]

I know what it's like wanting to go on a night out with DH, especially at Christmas-time, but I personally wouldn't be comfortable doing this - whatever the child's age - and would just skip the party.

[PfftTheMagicDragon]

Get a babysitter FGS.

[CLOVER81]

Can you not contact the hotel and ask them if they have any babysitting facilties?

[thesunshinesbrightly]

No!

[mice]

Have you asked your family to help? Mine have always been prepared to travel to help out at times like Christmas.
Even thinking about leaving a baby that young is just daft to me.

[GibbonInARibbon]

No way could I do it.