Not to want to go to this New Year's Eve party?

[Emster30]

It is hosted by a very good friend of ours, he was best man at our wedding, but I won't know many of the other people there. Most of them are a bit younger than us and it will probably be a fairly raucous boozy affair. I will be 12 weeks pregnant and will have had my scan the day before, so (assuming all's well) I can at least explain to people why I'm not drinking. However I'm not great at parties at the best of times and I can't quite face the idea of sitting in the corner, stone cold sober, not knowing anyone. Plus it is in south-west London and we live in north-east London so it will be a huge great trek back across town on night buses in the middle of the night to come home. I suppose I could conceivably drive so that I could leave when I wanted to and not have to wait for DH but it would be a very long and stressy drive.

I don't want to stop DH going to this party as he really wants to, but I would be so much happier at home on the sofa with a big tub of Ben and Jerry's. I can't see him being happy to go and leave me on my own, but I'd much rather that. I don't know what to do!

[Lauriefairyonthetreeeatscake]

Why would it be a bad drive - it might take a while to get there early on (there was very little traffic in London last NYE) and there will be hardly any driving back if you come back at 2-3.

I would drive and then drive back when I get too bored - there are bound to be a couple of non-drinkers there surely that you can talk to ?

you could try and get a Boggle tournament going

[eandz]

I'm sorry you feel this way. Have you at least spoken to your dh about it yet?

but are you absolutely sure you don't want to dress up and have a night out before the bumb comes along?

[SolidGoldBangers]

Is it possible that you don't want to go when you think about it now because you are suffering from 'first trimester knackeredness'? You might, by the time NYE rolls round, be feeling quite partyish.
WHy not say to your H that you would rather decide on the evening (it doesn't sound like the sort of do that needs a formal acceptance of the invite) and if you do feel too tired, he can go alone.

[Emster30]

That's probably true, I can't imagine wanting to go if it were this weekend but I might well feel different come NYE. I think it's probably a good idea to wait and see how I feel on the night. My mum wants me/us to come and spend it with them but somehow I don't think that would appeal much to DH instead of the party!

I guess driving might not be too bad. I just assume that there will be loads of rowdy people around spilling onto the roads, but I guess that won't be the case for most of the journey.

thank you for your sage advice... just feelimg a bit grumpy and passive-aggressive today!

[emsyj]

If you really don't want to go, then don't. Just tell them you've got terrible morning sickness (which you well might by then anyway) or whatever. BUT be aware that it's very often the nights you dread the most that turn out to be the most fun. So if you think you could bear to give it a try, then do. The drive would be fine. I drove (pg also!) to an engagement party on Saturday night from my friend's place in SE London to Islington and it was fine. DH thought it was a mad idea to drive, but both myself and my friend (whom I was staying with) are pg and it was raining etc. Driving through central London was far preferable to trains/tubes/buses etc. We even got a free parking space so it was cheaper!