Hi, not sure if IABU or not here. I'm a regular poster but name changed just in case... I'm probably on a bit of a rant too. We (me, DH & 2 kids) don't particularly struggle for money but we are not loaded either, we have enough to break even most months I would say. For birthday presents we can only afford say £20 on one person and we can't / don't live an extravagent lifestyle, we have a mortgage plus 2 lots of part time childcare to pay for.
Anyway, DH's family are very materialistic and it just gets to me a bit. The other day we went for dinner to celebrate MIL's birthday and we got her a present around £20. I then felt so bad because DH's siblings each bought her stuff worth >£100 each I reckon. I know they are closer to MIL and maybe wanted to spend more but it just makes me feel so bad when we hand over what I think is a fairly good present and then they hand over a tonne of goodies.
Same goes for Xmas etc, they always spend £££££ on our kids while we don't (both out of principle and also cos of lack of £). At easter we got DS an easter egg and they got him a present that was probably near £100. They also redo their houses / kitchens / bathrooms literally every few years. They slag off DH and I because we haven't done our house up / got the latest gadgets / car etc but they seem to not realise that others just can't afford the things they can. They have no childcare costs either.
Maybe I am a bit but I also feel that some people consume waaaaaay too much these days and think everyone who doesn't is a total tightwad.
I always feel bad at the Xmas pressie exchange time because inevitably our £20 / £30 presents will look crap- I know it's the thought that counts but we will prob get slagged off- again!
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for feeling like a skinflint when around DH's family who always spend ££££ on presents & materialistic stuff?
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stoviesfortea · 22/11/2009 19:21
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