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DH is fuming with me because he spent 2 hours making a delicious curry and I chopped a few slices of banana as an accompaniment to mine. He said he was offended and I was being disrespectful because of the effort he put into makIng it.

I know this sounds ridiculous but we're actually not talking to each other over this.

AIBU?

I LOVE banana in curry. YANBY inreasonable at all!

My Dad always made ace curries and and ALWAYS served it with a small bowl of sliced banana sprinkled with dessicated coconut. I think your dh is being a bit precious, and imo something sweet with a curry is essential whether it be mango chutney or a couple of slices of banana.

To have something extra that you fancy with your food, no, not unreasonable.

Banana with curry is, however, incomprehensible.

he sounds like a prized prat tbh

what the fuck is it to him if you fancy a bit of nana with your curry ?

Disgusting. YABU ---> that's a boak face rather than envious

Apparently I'm in a minority re my banana-with-curry views, but I still think YANBU. It's not as if he spent hours making it and then you covered it in HP sauce or something.

Hmmmm....I'm sure I've heard in some cultures it's considered rude to season or salt your food before you've tasted it, or even at all (presumably because you're implying the chef didn't put the exact right amount of salt/seasoning in).

But a banana? As an accompaniment? Can't see getting offended if this is something you normally like to do.

Would he have the same problem if you had used salt, pepper or ketchup?

Personally, I don't feel the need for banana with a curry but dh often does.

HE is being rather unreasonable, imo.

yanbu
speaking as someone who has done that very thing
and raisins purloined from my dear child's collection of goodies.

YANBU. Its a colonial Brit tradition...curry accompanied by sliced banana, coconut and raisens. Nothing strange about it.

of your curry though (hungry emoticon)

cucumber and a boiled egg too
beautiful!

what a twonk

its up to you what you would loke to add to your food

would he have been bothered if it was salt?

Don't know about some cultures, but I get annoyed when people salt their food before tasting it, as it's implying that it's obviously not seasoned enough.

But YANBU with regard to the banana. As someone else said, would he have been so annoyed if you had put a dollop of mango chutney on the side?

My mum also used to do that, serve curry with chopped up banana and coconut! Still have banana on mine (though hate coconut) - its hardly rude, what would he have said if it was chutney??

YANBU. Banana with curry is yummy.

To have something sweet and salving to the palate alongside hot and spicy food is a natural pairing. Just Google the words 'curry' and 'banana'and you'll get over 2,000,000 hits. I think it's a British colonial era traditional thing to eat sliced banana alongside curries.

I have to say, I have never ever had banana with curry

would never have even thought about it

I love banana with curry.

Why does it matter what you have with it??!

I don't like banana with curry myself, the same as I don't like sultanas in curry.
But I do think your DH is being precious.

I thought you meant you had gone to the pot on the stove and chopped a banana into it That combined with the fact my mum used to put raisins in curry in about 1978 and it made DB and I <boak> bigtime as enough for me to give you a big YABU.

But on second reading I see you only added banana to yours. Which is fair enough. So YANBU but possibly a bit freaky banana-fetish and if you asked for a banana to go with your curry in our house you would get a and a as it's just a bit damn odd.

Oh we would also give you a banana, even though it goes against every ounce of common sense and decency. But we would hand over the banana.

HTH.

Well thanks everyone. I've learned that this issue truly divides us as a nation. There are those who (like me) find banana with curry an almost unparalleled pleasure and equally those who <boak> at the thought.

I guess me and DH are just going to have to learn to live with our differences - I mean, a banana isn't really worth a split is it

<shuffles away feeling slightly over own corny joke>

I want to know what type of curry it was.

Your post has brought back memories of curry at my parents'. My Mum would make a vat of chicken curry, and it would be my brother's and my task to set out little bowls of chopped apple, banana and yoghurt with cucumber. And of course mango chutney and lime pickle. Mmmmm.
I haven't eaten curry like that since about 1994.
So no, YANBU.