Ok tried posting this on the relationship bit but seems quite over there so moving it here.
I have been thinking of posting for a while and checking the relationships talk hoping to read of someone in my situation so i would not have to.
Now I have decided to as I would really like to come across someone who may have gone through something similar and who came out the other end as a happy family.
Its a long story which im sure I could write a novel about but as this is MN i will keep it short....or try to.
My exP and I have two DC one school age one nursery. we seperated a few months ago. Before this he had been unfaithful a number of times over the years. It was always with the same person. It was not an affair as such but more a one night with this person in a space of a year.
He never told me I found out about it and the woman has been wonderfully entertained by my misery as she has wanted us to break up.
We have been to counciling together, he has been for counciling on his own. We got engaged as thing were going well. The last time it happened was over a year ago now however, I decided to end it because he seemed to have moved on but I just could not.
I am still so torn apart by this and although he has really tried and proved himself to me the last year I just could not stand the worry and the mistrust any more.
So after months of agonising over my decision and the heart ache that I was failing my children I made the leap and ended it.
Since him moving out it has been a real struggle he is having the children every second wkend and if he gets off work early will come and put them to bed.
Since we broke up he has asked if I would marry him now and put all this behind us. However, the last week I think he has given up as He just has not bothered being nice to me and in an arguement the other night hit me (this is the first time he has ever been violent)
I am just so lost because ultimately this was the man I was going to marry and spend all my days with and I still love him and am so desperate to have the solid family life for my children. But I can not change what he has done and I can not help that every day when the thoughts of what he has done (the cheating) come to mind I feel like my insides are being ripped out.
I think I have gone on for too long now so will leave it there but would be greatful if anyone who has had similar experience has any wise words.
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mightymumof2 · 14/11/2009 21:09
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