I had an operation on monday ( am home now)
Didnt have Op until 2pm, came out of recovery room at about 4.15pm. I had a general ans so was still not really with it and in pain.
I text my mum at about 4.40pm to tell her i was ok.. she started getting cross saying why hadnt i answered my phone when she was rinigng. I think ( cant be sure as was out of it) that i told her my phone was on silent as we are only meant to use them for texts in hospital, and i wasnt really with it.
About 5.45 i called her as a nurse said she had called the ward. By this point by blood pressure had dropped really low and they had to call a doctor to see me. I felt so terrible i could barley open my eyes. My mum said she wasnt going to vist as she was going swimming and to call her at 8pm. I told her that if she was ever in hospital i wouldnt visit her.
I was upset and scared and just wanted a visit. My ex husband is looking after my daughter. I had told my friends not to come as family said they would. Then my mum said she wouldnt.
My sister turned up at 7.20 ( visiting time 7-8pm) apparently mum told her to come. She was shocked at how i was, have spoken since apparently i wasnt making much sense! Then my mum came at about 7.45. I had just been helped to the toilet from the nurse and they were paging the doctor again.
My mum proceeded to stand on the bottom of the bed and have a go at me telling me how selfish i was as she had been looking after my dog and that i was taking the piss. I tried to tell her to stop but she just carried on an then apparently ( according to my sister) i shouted really loudly ' Mother, will you stop having a go at me, im in hospital and ill'
She left after then, and did pick me up and i stayed at hers yesterday as pre agreeded and im now home.
She hasnt said anything and neither have i, but im really hurt and upset that when i was so vunerable, literally a few hours post surgery and so bad a doctor had to be called that she saw fit to have a go at me.
AIBU.....to be so hurt and angry, or should i just forget about it.
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reallyhappy · 04/11/2009 16:59
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