Am I being Unreasonble to wish he would be a bit more positive?
We moved this year, and obviuosly we get a fair few questions about how its going in our new town.
Now we planned and saved for 5 years for this move, we had a huge 'wishlist' of what we wanted and we pretty muh got everything on the list.
The only negatives are;
.... the house needs more work than we wanted but then we did manage to find one in the nicest area of town which we couldn't have afforded if it didn't need work.
and .... DH still has to work away 3 days a week with a 20min-1hr commute; do a 1hr commute to work on day 4 and works from home day 5.
Positives
We got out of the city
I've got a job in my field of work locally within a month of looking on a reasonable salary and no travel costs /time.
DC settled well into school
I've made loads of friends
Its a great place to live
but any time anyone asks DH how its all going he says with this huge grimace and groan "the travel is kiling me" or "the hosue is eating my money" ......
Its really getting to me - especially as he will do it after I've just finished saying how great it is. Dont' get me wrong I dont' make light of his travel I usually reply by saying its a lovely place and DS has some nice school friends, its a shame DH has to drive still but now I've got a job we're hoping he can change jobs/ location.
DH NEVER mentions any of the positive stuff, and people dont' know how to reply. I mean they all know we planned this. Its obviuos that a good school, a lovely house in an attractive village and a job for me are all good things but then they have Mr Whingy going on about how awful his drive is.
Oh on top of all that its driving me up the wall that he isn't here 3 or 4 days of the week. He doesn't have the school run to sort out, childcare worries before/after school. DC meals and washing to do etc etc. Plus if he wants to he can go out after 7pm, even just pop to the shop - I can't unless I take DS (4) with me.
But apparantly he has the harder time of it and its 'really' difficult for him. To the extent that the last time he talked to one of our mutual friends (someone we only see a few times a year) She rang me up afterwards and commiserated on our seperation because she said DH had sounded so bloody miserable and cross and he kept talking about "H's" house.
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AIBU?
to think that DH comes across as very negative when he talks about our house move?
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halia · 29/10/2009 12:52
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