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AIBU?

To be a bit cross with my DD's nursery?

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Marioandluigi · 21/10/2009 16:45

My DD goes to nursery once a week and we are very happy with it, she is 15 months.

However today I read on her day sheet 'XXXXX has had a lovely day playing with her boyfriend [boys name]

Now I am a bit about it. I know its supposed to be a bit of harmless fun, and I am not going to make a compalint or anything as the girls are lovely, I just want to know that someone else understands, because my husband thinks its funny.

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2shoescreepingthroughblood · 21/10/2009 16:46

yabu
I harly think they are serious

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Pinkjenny · 21/10/2009 16:47

I would find it a bit too. But not so much that I'd complain. My dh would think I was overreacting over this too.

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PuppyMonkey · 21/10/2009 16:47

I think it's funny too... sweet.

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RainbowJelly · 21/10/2009 16:50

maybe they just mean in it the literal sense - he is a friend that happens to be a boy???

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girlafraid · 21/10/2009 16:51

I wouldn't like it, I loathe it when people refer to boyfriends/girlfriends for children

The inappropriate sexualisation of children's friendships and also a lesson that men and women cannot be friends

I do have a tendency to be a bit strident though

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ParisFrog · 21/10/2009 16:53

It is a bit odd. It's not like they're 5 and running round the playground holding hands saying they're married etc.

Why can't they just be friends? Why add an extra dimension to it?

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madhairgirl · 21/10/2009 16:54

No I understand, sometimes people just seem so desperate to make everyone grow up so quickly and nothing is allowed to be childlike any more. Why does it matter whether she was playing with a boy or a girl it should just be good that she is socializing well.

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hanaboo · 21/10/2009 17:02

yanbu does this mean that they are saying this to the children too? i would be mad if anyone started the boyfriend thing with my dd(4)
its like when people call a child or baby sexy! i say 'NO, shes 4, not sexy!'

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MatNanPlus · 21/10/2009 17:04

Sounds like the writer is a little young/immature.

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flaminhell · 21/10/2009 17:14

No I would not like it, I would find it odd.

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nellynaemates · 21/10/2009 17:14

I've never had it in his report but we all refer jokingly to DS and a girl at his nursery as boyfriend and girlfriend, not without good reason! They cuddle and kiss and hold hands and love being with each other, of course it's not really "boyfriend and girlfriend" but they're close and everyone knows what we mean. It's hardly sexualising them!

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littlestarschildminding · 21/10/2009 17:15

I put in one of my mindees home books the other day that "X had been having great fun playing with her new boyfriend ( she kept kissing him all day and it was so sweet)" LMAO I don't see anything wrong with putting this and her parents thought it was really sweet.

IMHO I think you are over reacting!

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littlestarschildminding · 21/10/2009 17:16

Ohh and MatNanPlus...Im certainly not young (or immature I hope)..

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clam · 21/10/2009 17:27

I wouldn't like it, but wouldn't go so far as to comment on it back to them.

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pigletmania · 21/10/2009 19:40

Gosh lighten up at a bit just a bit of a joke nothing more. I sometimes used to say to my dd when she was about that age (15months), is your boyfriend coming round today, meaning my friends 16 month old son at the time. Or when she was going to a friends party, oh your seeing your boyfriend today . My dd is now 2.8 btw

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scottishmummy · 21/10/2009 19:45

light hearted joke.not a dig or comment upon her future status

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ProfYaffle · 21/10/2009 19:45

I had similar when dd1 was about 3 at nursery, the staff wrote she was "playing with her boyfriend X" and drew a few love hearts in her diary. I thought it was quite amusing though, tbh, I was so relieved she finally found a friend I didn't really think too deeply about it.

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 21/10/2009 19:48

YABU, chill. The girls are just being friendly and jokey.

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Maleeka · 21/10/2009 19:50

Aww i'd think it was sweet IMO you'd have to be a little uptight to look for anything sinister in that report!

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lockets · 21/10/2009 19:54

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piscesmoon · 21/10/2009 20:00

I think you should take it in the spirit it is obviously meant.

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Littlefish · 21/10/2009 20:01

I don't like these references to boyfriends/girlfriends for very young children either.

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piscesmoon · 21/10/2009 20:03

I can't say that I like them but it isn't something to be taken seriously-save getting upset for things that really matter.

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ChunkyMonkeysMum · 21/10/2009 20:05

I think it's really sweet. You are being a bit unreasonable.

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mummyofevilprincesses · 21/10/2009 20:15

YANBU!

I don't like it either- it is inappropriate and unprofessional and tbh, tacky. I wouldn't be impressed if it was written on anything DD bought home from nursery or a childminder.

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