presumptious?

Don't get me wrong, we had a very charming and funny little poem in with the wedding invite about having 'a nice toaster and not needing any coasters' etc. But isn't that the case for most people anyway if they have lived together first?

It just seems a bit weird - I know vouchers are no different really but at least you know they will buy something, usually something more expensive that they wouldn't expect one person to buy alone. I don't think they are particularly hard up for cash or that they will blow it down the pub. I also don't mind them knowing how much we 'spent' - but its almost more pressure for those who may be on a tight budget anyway.

Has anyone done this or faced a similar request?

Thanks

about 75% of the gifts at our wedding were cash. But different country, different culture and perfectly normal there. Only been to about 3 weddings here (that I was invited to rather than playing for them) and not experienced it.

Well, proper etiquette says you never mention gifts in a wedding invitation, even to say "don't give me one". To ask for cash, no matter how cutely put, is the absolute tackiest of all.

Yanbu imo, but you may be opening a can of worms here.
I think it is tacky as hell.

vulgar beyond belief

I don't like it.

I don't like the asking for things!

We are getting married soon and we are living together but have basically started from scratch doing up house so new kitchen stuff would be useful as would vouchers (and money tbh) but I don't know what to say when people ask! I can't bring myself to do a debenhams list either so what should I do!

we even had a gifts "manager" who sat at a table and wrote down who had given gifts and who had given cash, and how much.

oh gosh - I sometimes think wedding guests need to just get over it. Why is it cheeky?
Perhaps the couple don't want to end up with 10 picture frames and a collecton of useless scented candles. At least this way they get to buy something they really want.

Have you never ever given cash as a present?

Does the poem also say they don't mind getting nothing?

Was it this poem?

We are sending out this invitation
And hope you will join our celebration
If to send a gift is your intention
In modesty we would like to mention
We have already got a kettle and a toaster
Crockery, dinner mats and coasters
So rather than something we have already got
Please give us money for our savings pot
But, most importantly, we request
That you turn up as our Wedding Guest

Are they good friends of yours? presumably they are if they have thought to invite you to their wedding so why do people have such a moan about these things.

So its not just me then - phew!

I'm really not sure what to do and the wedding is on Saturday.

I am thinking of buying a nice photo frame or perhaps some champagne?