i have an aunt by marriage who sometimes does work as a nail technician. one of her clients lives 3 doors from me and i have seen her car there quite often. she doesnt visit me, we dont keep in touch except if we were to see each other whilst out. we have never fallen out or anything, we just arent close. she didnt visit when ds was born 8 weeks ago.
so about six weeks ago i was just setting tea down for ds1 and myself when the door went. before i even got out of the kitchen, the door opened and in came my aunt's 11 year old daughter. i was a expecting the aunt to follow so went to the door but saw her going into neighbours house. she looked back towards my house and saw me ao shouted something over. i couldnt hear her so called her over with my hand. she came over and said "dcousin is just coming in to you."
i told her we were just about to eat. to which she replied " oh she hasnt had any yet." and then she walked away back to neighbours. so anyway i asked dc if she would like anything, she said no. so ds and i ate while she sat at the table watching us. after this i bathed ds1 and ds2 (aged 2 weeks at the time) and tried to put ds1 to bed. but because cousin was here he wanted to stay up. aunt came back an hour and a half after leaving cousin with me and said "thanks for having her." and left.
then this evening i was just putting ds1 to bed (7pm) and the door went. it was both her daughters this time. (11y and 9y) i told them i was just putting ds to bed and that they would have to go back to their mum. her car is still there now so if i had let them in they would still be here.
AIBU to have said no tonight? is she BU to have done this without even asking me if it was ok or if i could look after her children?
her husband (my uncle) is at home in the evenings and she has two boys aswell so i expect they are at home with DU. should she not have left the girls at home if she didnt want to look after them while she worked?
i havent said anything to her but i do want to make it clear i dont think its acceptable. should i say?
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booyhoo · 23/07/2009 22:19
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