Long story but DS has anger management issues at 11 (they have been going on for nearly three years), which resulted in social services getting involved.
Our case worker was, I was lead to believe going to establish a 'bond' with him to gain his trust and get to the root of the problem.
(which does involve his relationship with his dad).
A year down the line and he has taken him out 3 times, with other children, barely talked to him, and the problems continued.
However, he spent what in heinsight was an extraordinary amount of time with me, (I do suffer from depression and self esteem issues) and over the last few visits started to pay me carefully worded compliments.
I am CRAP at people, and if he said building my confidence up was part of helping DS, I naively accepted that to be the case.
Recent events have transpired and I find myself having a serious lack of confidence in the man.
I repeatedly asked him to address the issues between DS and his Dad and he would say what great people they both appeared to be.... Even after I reported that DS had punched a window out in rage over some bullying issues, he said school said he was OK and he seemed balanced, and that my mental health was of greater concern.
Do social workers pay you compliments or am I extraordinarily thick? Is it part of establishing a rapport (albeit with the wrong person..surely DS was the one he needed to establish trust with?)
And can I ask for the case to be transferred to a female worker because I don't feel comfortable with the man? Or am I making life complicated for myself?
One of his colleagues has asked me a couple of strange questions about how I think things have gone.
I have to go out but will be back later..
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TheMitsubishiWarrioress · 16/07/2009 17:26
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