DH is a newly qualified teacher and has had the last two weeks off (and won't start work til September). I'm working full time whilst he does the school run for DS then they will have the holidays. I've got one week off with them then a couple of days with DS when he has staff inset days and DH is working.
We're buying a house and I've been doing all the phone calls and stuff from my desk at work and then doing the organisation at home. DH (I think) felt bad and (under a little pressure) decided I should write him a list of what needs doing whilst he's off work and I'm not. So, we're on the second list and still some of the first hasn't been done. I've been amazingly understanding (whilst wanting to scream) as I know he's not very good at organisation. He's met workman at the new house and forgotten to ask important questions (one is now on their fourth phone call), he's tried twice to measure the kitchen so we can plan it (I'm having to go to the new house after work tomorrow to do it myself as it apparently needs my 'wise eye' as he's unable to measure perimeters) but he has missed out measurements and forgotten about doors and windows. For the last three weeks I've literally gone home, read paperwork that's arrived, done spreadsheets etc. To be fair, he's been doing the cooking and washing up. I've been getting more and more stressed which he realises. I've also had to cancel a couple of days off with DH as I need them kept just in case I need to see workman as DH doesn't think he can give them the right info (even when I've written it down for him).
Tomorrow is DS's last day at school and DH will be 'doing house stuff' in the afternoon. He hasn't done any preparation for the new school year apart from starting to read a poetry book he's teaching. Today, he said he'd help his Dad move something and then do school work, as well as phoning this workman for the fourth conversation of what he hadn't checked. I was pleased although I'd been hoping he'd come and meet me for lunch (thought I wouldn't mention that as didn't want him to feel bad for getting on with work).
So, I've texted him a couple of times and he was obviously in bad reception land as they took ages to be received. I texted asking him if he was 'somewhere funny' or was my phone being odd and he's been in a local village for a walk, looked at a few churches and went to see an old friend for a chat.
Normally, I'd probably be fine with that but, I'm now going to be doing more, he's gonna be doing school work whilst DS is off and (probably more importantly) I'm furious he's doing nothing whilst I'm at work and then doing all the brain work in the evenings. I've had one half day to myself since last summer so I understand the need for a bit of piece, but I just feel angry and that he's selfish!
Incidentally, his first wife (who died) apparently didn't do anything around the house or organisation wise so not only do I know he could once do these simple tasks but also, he's told me how much he hated being the one 'doing everything'.
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randomtask · 16/07/2009 15:14
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