I suspect the answer here is probably yes -am a bit hormonal (3 months up the duff plus flu) so need the mumsnet jury before I have a conversation I may regret!
My Mum and I have a good relationship and she dotes on DD but in the last couple of weeks has said a couple of things that have left me a bit hurt, not so much because of what she said but that she said them as her inital reaction.
When I told her about DC II she said congratulations, then added that as the due date clashed with an important golf event she would not be able to look after DD while I was in hospital. Fair enough, it is very important to her, but I was a bit taken aback it was her second comment about a new grandchild.
This week DD and I have flu, the first thing Mum said was that she wouldn't be coming to 'nurse' us. Then she asked how we were doing. She has called lots since and says she feels guilty she isn't here, and I wouldn't want her catching it anyway, but it would have been nice to know I could have called for support if things got worse.
Mum is the only GP so we try and make sure DD sees her every month but have to fit in around her golf and other committments (she is retired but v.busy). As DH and I both work and it's a 2 hr journey it can be tricky. When she comes here I make sure we do lots of fun family stuff, and don't ask for support / babysitting normally - in fact I hadn't asked when she said she couldn't!
Have realised while typing this that the 2 comments above have rankled more because they just seem to reinforce that her golf and charity work is more important than seeing DD (and new DC) - which it could well be as she is building a new life after being widowed and retiring 2 years ago.
So am probably being a brat, but still feel hurt. So, AIBU?
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markymark · 15/07/2009 10:40
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