Post has just plopped on the mat. In there is a card addressed to uncle idrank.
His birthday was well over a week ago.

The card is from his sister but on behalf of his nephew. His sister has written the card, dn is nearly 6 and can read and write and has written his own cards for the last couple of yrs.

I think she is being a devious cow tbh. Background is that dp's two sisters accused dbil of something really awful, (cannot give details on here, sorry). They then accused dp of threatening to kill them and dn.
We were all completely shocked and dp and his brother were absolutely gutted. They also wrote to their mother and basically told her they were cutting her out of their lives because she had told both of them that she didn't believe them.

The accusations were only levelled after one of the sisters wanted dbil to sign over his share of a house they both own to her without her actually buying him out. She had met a partner and wanted to move him in, moving my dbil out.
He refused as he has invested a lot of money into it and it's impossible for him to just walk away from that. (if he signed over his investment for nothing he would then be unable to buy himself somewhere else to live.)

The sisters went to a solicitor and wrote to both brothers stating their accusations and asserting that the police were involved. Both brothers went to the police, the police knew nothing about any of it, no statements or reports had ever been made.

A few weeks ago the sisters withdrew all accusations after an application to have the brother removed from his home was thrown out of court by the judge as it was "without any merit whatsoever".

It was one of the sisters birthday last Saturday, we sent nothing. Why would we, they put a nuclear bomb under the family and caused a massive amount of hurt.
Dbil has some mental health issues and is very fragile anyway, this has all made it much worse.

So today the card arrives, i feel it is the sister making some sort of point, ie you didn't bother with sisters birthday but look at me, i'm being a martyr type thing.
She has put a note in it saying she expects us to put "all of your misplaced anger" behind us "for the sake of your nephew". I am fucking livid. I sincerely doubt he knows she has sent this card and the note reads as if we are to blame for all of this.
My general thought is to simply keep up contact with dn as possible by writing to him, sending cards etc but to ignore his poisonous mum as much as is humanly possible.

If you made it through my ramblings well done.