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to think this is a bit, well, tight?

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By Fri 03-Jul-09 15:00:43 Add message | Report | Contact poster

I know a woman who lives locally to me - she is a friend of friends, and she has a DD a bit younger than my DD. We get on quite well, I see her socially and the DDs like playing together. I pass a lot of DD's outgrown clothes and shoes onto her - probably over £100 worth in the last couple of years. Last week I gave her a pair of girl's Doc Marten summer shoes and a bag of summer clothes.

We are both on the local freecycle and so she has a lot of things I give away on there too - toys, women's clothes, household stuff etc, and last year I gave her a violin for her older child to learn on.

Anyway today I had a text from her to say she had bought a dress in Oxfam but decided it didn't suit her and would I like to try it on me. So I said yes please, and got a message back saying it would be £3.

AIBU to think thats a bit bloody tight? Ok, I don't give people things because I expect things in return but tbh I feel like handing her a bag of DD's clothes next time I see her and then telling her they will cost her a tenner.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 05-Jul-09 21:29:55

I regularly buy from a number of local charity shops they all allow me to return items that dont fit as long as I haven't taken off their tags and I have a receipt.

Why can't she return it to the shop and get her money back that way.

If she has take tags off or binned receipt then tough on her.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 05-Jul-09 21:20:29

YANBU She just wants her money back but can't be arsed to go back to the shop !

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 05-Jul-09 18:51:22

You could put the clothes in a charity shop if she always replies to your freecycling stuff or tell her someone else already asked for it on freecycle.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 05-Jul-09 18:47:10

This just goes to show how short-sighted tight/ungenerous people can be. Her tightness in asking you for £3 means that she will lose a lot more than £3 in the long run.

YANBU.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 05-Jul-09 12:10:20

YANBU, some people are very greedy and are all about taking as much as they can get.

I am actually quite shock

that she has asked you for the money TBH, she is very tight.
I wouldn't give her anything again.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 05-Jul-09 11:48:11

YANBU. ask her if you can pay her in installments. 10 pence a week till christmas.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 05-Jul-09 11:19:15

I would be inclined to change my freecycle details, as she will know that the current one is you and expect first refusal?

But I can be a bit of a chicken wink

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 22:25:14

YANBU

Some people just have different ways of ding things, sounds a bit like SIL!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 22:12:11

YANBU
When 2 work colleagues gave me clothes for my dd I bought them both flowers.
I don't think I would pass anything else onto her tbh!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 22:04:10

YANBU

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to think this is a bit, well, tight?