Calm down women. You two are both obv very stressed atm, and I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Sweetfall - three weeks would have made me a bit as well. Surely though if three feet away there is a nice big unused parking bay you could be using that instead without too much inconvenience...however I am glad it has gone, finally!

Hope you both have some good news soon xx

thingone, i agree with you about the blackmail bit

"her" at end of second to last line should read "their"

What's wrong with my last sentence? Look at sweetfall's other posts which I did when I saw her reply. She says she has massive health anxiety. I know what she's talking about. Help is available. Why is it harsh to suggest it? We should be more open about dealing with these things. It is absolutely not unkind to suggest help.

I'm not "having a go" at sweetfall. In her last post she said my comment was stupid. I didn't retort on the name calling. I explained why it wasn't stupid for me to say what I originally said.

I also thought the whole of her last paragraph read as emotional blackmail. Having said people should not use comments to bolster her argument she then used her possible illness to bolster her own argument.

<thinks why do people turn a simple chat/rant into a row?>

<wanders off to wash hands>

WHy are people having a go at sweetfall - she knows she is being a little unreasonable but nevertheless wants to have a moan, thats fair enough!!!!

Thingone - that was an unnecessarily harsh post
Surely all of us get worked up about seemingly trivial things occasionally???

I do - such as why its always my turn to do the washing up!

That's awful Yurtgirl. There are some very inconsiderate people around. What if you did own a car and you needed to get somewhere in an emergency!

at Riven's post too.

Sweetfall - I too feel your pain, but at least the car isnt parked across your drive

For the first time in years I live in a house with a drive, no car but I do have a drive

My neighbours park across my drive all the time - arghhhhhhhhhh drive me crazy

I know I dont use it but that isnt the point - its mine!

Sweetfall, was the car taken away by the owner or the police? I suppose it doesn't matter now the blooming thing is gone.

I'm glad it's now sorted.

YwereNBU!

yanbu. Its plain annoying although they have a legal right. But is it moral?
There's been a red car parked for 6 days half in my disabled bay and my neighbour parked up to the white line on the other side elaving me with 4 feet to get my car in.
So I have to park some distance away with a sick child and shopping etc. Fucking incovenient and slefish but not illegal apparently.
I would never park outside someone elses house because I'd feel bad.

Thingone, you sound as though you are having a tough time of it, but that last comment was below the belt

Sweetfall. I guess your last statement was aimed at me. I have now looked up earlier exchanges on your health (I didn't recall them earlier). You'll find I was very supportive. The reason I was supportive is because I know what it is like to face a life threatening disease and the anxiety that goes with it.

This month I have several scans to see whether the treatment for my primary colo-rectal and metastatic liver cancer has been successful. I have been ill for two and a half years. This has had a profound affect on me.

One of these effects is that when I see someone asking, in AIBU, in all seriousness about something which is so utterly trivial I do think "What the fuck? Don't they have anything better to think about?" I rarely post along these lines because it would be rude. And I'm generally a pretty polite person despite the enormous stress I have been under for so long.

You say my comments were stupid and hurtful. It certainly wasn't stupid. My comment was from my heart, actually. I would love, absolutely love, to have such a carefree life that I could care that parking can be difficult in my street. Sadly it's unlikely for me that I will be able to be so carefree for long time to come, if ever.

Hurtful? It wasn't meant to be. Can I remind you that this is AIBU? And that you were being unreasonable, as you admit.

And I think you need help with your health anxiety if you are getting so worked up at both the car and a post on AIBU. Ask your doctor.

MF: having off road parking isnt always the solution. In our last hosue we had off road parking, but someone who lived a 5 minute walk away insisted on parking both their cars either side of our driveway (and once it was parked over our driveway for half a day), and often as tight to our driveway as possible.

As we lived on a main bus route, getting in and out of the driveway became a major life gamble as it was nearly impossible to see the road safely until your car was halfway into the road.

Our solution was to park one of our cars on the road outside our house to guarantee we could get the car in and out. Especially when it got closer to my due date and we really didn't the worry about being able to get out

motherpi: i assume that these cars for sale are all owned by some kind of dealership. Or is it just some weird local custom?

In either case, it would probably be worth phoning your local councillor/going to his/her surgery to talk about it. All the parking spaces around the local park should not be taken up by cars that never move (until they're sold); people using the park should be able to use them. The council could put in some kind of parking restrictions to force vehicle turnaround (along the lines of 'park for up to an hour/2 hours, no return within 4 hours') or something.

As for parking outside your house: if you really must guarantee that you can park next to your front door, then you should buy a house with off-road parking. The road outside is fair game for anyone to park on. My neighbours are really weird about parking (and everything else, tbh). They will come round and complain if you park in 'their' space (the one in front of their house). The hilarious thing is that I'm pretty certain that in using 'their' space they almost always leave their car illegally parked (too close to the corner).

It's gone! It's gone! Tralalalaaa

Just to repeat finally though

- there is plenty of space to park that is not directly outside any of the house's front doors.

- it was mildly inconvenient for me in terms of herding children and dealing with shopping

- the only way I can park directly outside and not on the other side of the road is if my neighbour's car is not there and then sometimes she doesn't get to park directly outside her house (but as this is a transient thing ie for one day it is less irritating)

- this is not a road that has any services, parks, shops anything anywhere near - apart from a school which again has transient parking

- I have always said I have no rights but expressed my irritation

- the comments about having no other problems are stupid and can be hurtful and pushed me right back into contemplating whether my current health scare will be resolved or not and whether I'll actually be around next year. I think this issue became something different to focus on that I could deal with in a light-hearted way instead of having real anxiety - I think I'm saying please be careful about your throw-away comments used to bolster arguments as they can occasionally rebound in a way you do not expect / cannot expect and would not intend

To take the public road thing further, we have a park nearby and every one of the parking spaces surrounding it is filled with cars for sale. They are there all the time and they stop other people from using the spaces.

It's absolutely legal for them to do this, but that doesn't make it reasonable.

Since we moved into this house 16 years ago, the space outside our house has alwats been occupied by other cars. Last month we bought one of our own. Which now, as a natural consequence has to be parked outside somebody else's house. I just assume that people choose to park outside ours because they have no parking space elsewhere- else why would they choose not to do it outside their own?

Lovely? Lonely? Not sure how bitchy speculation about other people's lives is helpful.

You point is absolutely correct Duke, of course. But how would you feel if, say, someone left a huge pile of their stuff directly opposite your front door? It would be in a communal hallway (I assume), but bloody frustrating nonetheless.

Everyone knows that it's a public highway, but when you buy a flat you know that there will be no parking. When you buy a house on a street with parking, you - rightly or wrongly - assume that you'll be able to use the bit outside your house occasionally.

I live in a flat on a road which has no parking restrictions. I had a note on my car saying 'if you can't park outside your own house, park somewhere else'.

I was absolutely livid. Its a road with no parking restrictions.... anyone can park on it, for as long as they want.

It makes me wonder how lovely these people's lives must be if this is the biggest issue they are dealing with.

If you want your own special place to park... buy a place with a driveway or garage.

Grr. Grr.

Parking within 15m of a corner is illegal innit?

Where's wienstein when you need her?!

It sounds like you still have room to park outside your house so I don't think you have much cause for complaint. Perhaps the owner is parking there because someone else is parked outside his house.

"I wish I had so little to worry about that I could care about whether or not I have to parallel park."

So the fuck do I actually ThingOne - so the fuck do I

You are not being unreasonable. It is infuriating when someone leaves their car outside your house for any length of time. Why on earth would anyone park directly outside someone else's house when there are other options available?

YABVU. An inconvenience that you have to make an effort to park? You get het up about that? Really?

I would agree that it's odd that's a previously unknown car has not been moved for fifteen days. That's certainly worth reporting.

I wish I had so little to worry about that I could care about whether or not I have to parallel park.

A man turned up at my house and asked if I owned a black mini that had been 'abandoned' for 'weeks' outside his house. He was very curt and kind of rude, I'm guessing he'd been stewing for days
It had been parked in the street outside his house for just over a week, and I had no way of knowing that it would bother someone, so I hadn't moved it.
It's not possible to park in my street at all so my car will always be outside somebody else's house.
It wasn't in his way, and as there is space for 3 cars on the street outside his large house as well as a large drive, I still really don't get it. It was that particular space he had got himself in a tizz about.
I actually thought it was a joke for a couple of minutes before he insisted angrily that I move it instantly. I was openly incredulous and pretty upset by his manner, but I got the car keys and moved the car straight away. Two spaces away. I think he's a total loon and I'm very glad I'm not married to him.

YABVU, but why not just do what he did and call the DVLA and go round to their house if it bothers you that much? They might think you're loopy, but you'd stand a better chance of getting it sorted...

Oh and I'm not ready to teach my kids about flour and egg fights - it was just a throw-away comment

It is parked on a quiet road where there is plenty of space that is not directly outside houses / front doors. In fact 3 foot away around the corner there is an entire block that runs up the side of houses so there are no doors at all. Generally quiet.

It has not been moved for 3 weeks.

It is interfering (mildly but irritatingly) with how I live my life, making it less convenient to bring in shopping and park and getting children into car safely.

The owner has parked it there without any thought to other people on the domestic road and has left it there without thought to any other people or users of the road. Which to me is the absolute definition of selfish - they were concerned solely with themselves with no thought of others.

I don't own the road. I have agreed with that. I have no right to get it moved. I know that. But I am allowed to be pissed off and moan about it having been dumped outside my house for 3 weeks.

Why is it selfish? It is legally parked, yes? What's selfish then?

OK so you're not going to damage it but you did say you wanted to send your kids out for a flour and egg fight - that will piss the owner off too!

I would be as annoyed as you about this, really, but there isn't anything you can do apart from what you have already done. I suppose you could knock on every door in the street and find out if they know who owns it and ask them to move it outside their house!

You are being perfectly reasonable, you're annoyed, you know you don't have the right to be annoyed, but you still are. Perfectly reasonable imo.

And you haven't willed damage upon the car or even hinted at it. That was down to other posters who are probably suggesting this 'tongue in cheek'.

YANBU at all. And it would annoy me too. Irrational, but true!

very odd that it hasn't been moved, have you checked inside? has it got blacked out windows? someone may be still in it! Probably been stolen I reckon.

have reported to police and they want me to report to council

15 days without moving it once is odd

right outside my front door when there's plenty space not directly outside housess front doors is selfish if you're leaving it there for weeks. And we are not on any transport links - we are a quiet London back-street

I have the right to be annoyed at my life being affected by someone else's selfish decision - I know that I have no ownership of the road but making other people's lives less comfortable is selfish

Drop a note in all houses on your street saying you are due to order a skip for a redecorate next week, and you need the owner to come and move the car as the skip has to go there. Add that otherwise you are worried they will damage the Audi as they position the skip as close to your door as poss.

I never said I was going to damage it

Yes - if it litterally asn't been moved at all I would report it to teh local police as a suspicous vehicle.

There was a car parked in a strange position in a local carpark one...didn't move for weeks and in the end we reported suspicious....the owner was very greatful as it had been stolen and dumped.

I think you should just ring the police and ask them to check if it has been stolen and if it hasn't you just have to get over it.

It would infuriate me as well but damaging it is not the way to go. It's taxed so it's allowed to be there. Just as you are allowed to be annoyed about it.

When the driver comes back and sees the damage and puts a brick through your window (as obvious suspect) you will be on here again with a different thread!

Sweetfall I read all of your posts

My DS recently left his car parked a bit further down our road for 10 days.
It had a flat tyre and he had just lost his job and couldn't afford to change it.

When it was sorted, he drove off(he was giving me a lift to work) and the miserable bugger whose house it was outside actually came out on to the street and clapped him.

How petty and how sad.
Wasn't you was it OP?

Then report it.

it's been 15 days now

well if you'd actually bother to read any of my posts you might get it

it bothers me because it inconveniences me on a daily basis. It makes my life just a little bit less easy.

If the car hasn't been moved once in ten days then i would report it as abandoned, because it probably is.
I had a rather nice car stolen a couple of years ago, it was found parked on a quiet residential street when an irate homeowner reported it.
It's common, young twats people steal a car, have a bit of fun for the evening and then dump it somewhere inconspicuous.

If however it is being moved during the day then there is n't actually anything you can do.

Some lovely ideas on here about scratching the car etc, oh how much better i would have felt when my car was found if there was additional damage from a pissed off resident as well.

I don't get it. I never have got it and never will. It's a car and it's in the road. Perhaps not the bit of road where you would prefer it to be, but essentially in the right place for a car to be - the road.

Start a thread when you find a car in your front bedroom and I will have some sympathy.

it inconveniences me - they could park it round the corner at the side of my house where there is no front door and plenty of space - I had to carry my shopping across the road - took 5 trips

never said I did. Never said I was being reasonable. I am annoyed by it. I'm allowed to be.

but you don't own the road
or do you?
you have no legal rights over the road in front of your house

it is still bloody well there and still hasn't be moved once

[rant]

Yes, call the police because is is definitely odd for a nice car to be left on a street for 10 days but don't damage it just because it is" on your turf"!

I guess I am a thug then, but I would be a bit miffed at a car being parked outside for 10 days when I didn't know who it belonged to.
Thinking about it, I would give the local police a call as it is a nice car and maybe has been stolen.

you could always report it as an abandoned vehicle if you don't know who owns it - it might give the owner somethign to think about if the police stick a nice big Police Aware sticker on it!

do you have/can you borrow any young children still in a buggy? It would be such a shame if you tried to squeeze past the Audi and accidentally scraped the paintwork...

OK, OK, I know it is legally parked but leaving your car on a residential street away from your own for ten days is a bit odd. Actually, round here the police would come round and check it out - they did when someone left a car in the bays opposite my house for a couple of weeks (even though it's not residents' parking).

You are totally unreasonable, but you know that

A bit shocked at the thuggish mentality of some here but maybe I am missing a "joke"

Has the car been stolen? Has the owner been rushed to hospital? Why would someone leave a car in a random street miles from the home?

I was parking my car legally on the street a few days in a row as I was looking after my father who had two broken arms at the same time - the guy came out of his house some doors up from where I was parked and told me not to park on the road, I needed to get to my dads house and couldn't walk as I needed to take him for appointments etc and he had an infection.

TBH I thought the guy was a twat with nothing better to do than try to regulate who parked in the street, I was worried he would get his kids to have a flour fight or damage the car - I was stressed enough as it was without the added stupidity

If it gets accidentally damaged and no-one sees it would be a great shame, no?

I'd get some mates around to pick it up and move it away.

I feel your pain. We have a local tw*t who parks sticking his bonnet into the opening, so I can only turn left as it is imposible or dangerous to turn right. if I had a crappy car , I am sure I'd maneouvre less carefully

I do keep touching its bumper when I reverse park

What do you think of the kids having a flour fight on the pavement?

I know you know , but it is annoying.

Could you spread word among the neighbours that you are rubbish at reverse parking (I'm sure you're not) and keep nearly hitting this Audi outside?

Actually that's a good point about it being dangerously parked if it's within a certain distance of a corner.

Get a drive

well I know that but it still pisses me off I have been parking quite happily for 9 years and now somebody has disrupted my flow man

hang on though... you say you're on a corner... does that make the car very close to a junction? That might be grounds for ringing the police (non-urgent!) and asking them to contact the registered keeper about it for that reason.

YABU

Unless it's actually blocking your drive or a dropped kerb, or is untaxed.

The piece of road outside your house belongs to the public.

it's tax is up to date believe me I have looked

I am going to send kids out to have a flour and egg fight on the pavement

Do you live near an airport? We have cars outside our house for days on end because we live about 8 miles from Stansted. V. annoying I agree, but, if it's a public road there's not much you can do. Report it as being abandoned?

I feel your pain it used to happen to us all the time.
Make a note of when his road tax runs out and keep an eye in case he forgets

that some tosser has parked his/her Audi TT outside my house for 10 days straight, and hasn't bothered to move it at all. This means that when I swoop up the road I now have to actually do a reverse parking maneouvre rather than just park in one move to curve manouvre outside my own bloody house which is so conveniently located on a corner.

Move your bloody car and park it outside your own house.