Seriously - please help as am literally pulling my hair out.
Our 4 yo DS had a felt-tip this morning and held it to his mouth, then 'blew out smoke' - I asked what he was doing and he said smoking!!!!
The only adult who smokes in front of our DS is my husband's brother and our DS adores him - I've had problems with him smoking in front of our DS anyway ...
And so I say to DH (when DS not there) to ask his brother NOT to smoke in front of DS again as DS looks up to him and so is likely to copy or mimic what he does.
Husband (notice am not saying DH) said I was over reacting and should have ignored DS's behaviour and it's not a 'big deal' and that he obviously saw it on Mickey Mouse on V not from his brother - and that I was over-reacting.
Urgh... I am sooo not over-reacting - our DS had cancer last year and we've been told in no uncertain terms that if he lives to be an adult (of which there's less than a 50% chance), if he smokes, he will get cancer again 100% - given.
So which bit am I over-reacting with? How can husband blame Mickey Mouse.....and not sure I've eevr seen him smoke apart from in old black and white early cartoons which we hardly watch...and how can he not see his brother smoking impacts on our DS?????
Am I being unreasonable?
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to be upset / angry at husband for thinking our 4 yo DS pretending to smoke is fine!!!!!!!
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wheredidmyoldlifego · 25/06/2009 10:08
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