to think that people should be able to sit in their garden without having to listen to other peoples music?

(126 Posts)
fufflebum Mon 15-Jun-09 11:27:18

I am wondering if I am being unreasonable but wanted to gauge some opinion.....

Here goes we live in a detatched house on an estate but our neighbours (at the back ) seem to like spending a lot of time in their garden. Nothing wrong in this but when they are out there they seem to have to have their radio on. This can go on for hours. Sometimes it is loud enough to hear the song playing, othertimes a low mumbling thump. I am not expecting to sit in the garden in complete silence, god knows my two kids prevent that! However, is it too much to ask that sometimes they could turn the radio off?
This weekend we had it all weekend and very late into Saturday night/sunday morning as they had family around and you could hear voices in the garden.
I am especially sensitive as another neighbour (side on from us) has the occasional bbq and party/disco that goes on until 1 am.
I would never dream of taking a radio in to the garden to listen to music and the children only play out in the garden for an hour or so at a time. Whilst I do expect some noise I cannot understand why I should have to put up with what feels like noise pollution! I am beginning to dread the weekend now. AIBU?

kando Mon 15-Jun-09 11:31:26

I think you are a bit, tbh. I have been known to listen to the radio in my garden, not up loud though. Be thankful you don't have my neighbours who like to shout "stop bloody screaming" at my dds when they are having fun in their paddling pool angry

I think you're being ABU too. I like having music on in my garden, never loud enough to disrupt anyone else though. My neighbours on either side do it too.

herbietea Mon 15-Jun-09 11:51:47

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4andnotout Mon 15-Jun-09 11:52:18

YABU I listen to my radio in my garden during the day, i don't have loud and it doesn't even drown out the neighbours arguing.

CurryMaid Mon 15-Jun-09 11:54:30

Radio on in the day, not loud enough for you to even discern the song = not unreasonable of them.

Radio up loud late into the night = unreasonable of them.

Just my opinion though.

OhBling Mon 15-Jun-09 11:54:32

I think YABabitU. If it's blasting noise all the time, I can understand it, but a little bit of music in the background is just the way it is and one of the joys of living in England. If the music bothers you, play your own - IME unless it's really loud from the neighbour, playing a little music of my own in my own garden drowns out any noise.

Although I quite like it - it doesn't bother me at all that people have music or talk or play in their gardens. Unless it's so loud I can't hear myself think I simply see it as part of community living.

And I'd say let your DCs play outside for more than an hour. As long as it's not at 6 am, your neighbours shouldn't get upset.

I would go and have a word with them if it's disturbing you that much. If my radio was too loud I'd be glad of a neighbour coming round to tell me instead of them suffering in silence.

VinegarTits Mon 15-Jun-09 11:57:26

YABU if you want to sit in your garden and not get background noises from other neighbours (voices/radio) then you need to go and buy a house in the middle of nowhere

mrsjammi Mon 15-Jun-09 11:58:22

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katiestar Mon 15-Jun-09 12:17:18

YANBU.I hate this too.I don't have a problem with voices/children playing but I can't stand radios blaring.So chavvy !

YeahBut Mon 15-Jun-09 12:25:31

I don't think people should be bothered by noise while inside their homes but noise outside, well that's just life.

PrammyMammy Mon 15-Jun-09 12:34:35

It is outside, and a muffled radio really isn't that big a deal.
Unless you would ask your dcs to play in silence so your neighbours couldn't hear them?

onebatmother Mon 15-Jun-09 12:37:14


Completely antisocial to inflict your taste in music on others. The only way to drown it out is to put on your music, which would escalate into a freaking cacophony.

music is not a right.

How on earth is listening to a radio chavvy?

EyeballshasManBoobs Mon 15-Jun-09 12:56:07

Oh FFS. How is playing music chavvy? A nice summer day, out in the garden with a book and some music and a long cool drink is one of life's small, free pleasures. If the radio is blaring out then fine, you might have a point. But loud enough at some points to hear the song is not unreasonable. I don't want to hear next door's children screaming, or the dog two doors down barking, or people whittering on about nonsense. But unless you live on an island then it's part of living in a community.

There are some right bloody miseries on this thread.

traceybath Mon 15-Jun-09 13:01:54


My mil used to go mad because her neighbour listened to the radio whilst gardening - hardly the crime of the century in my opinion.

As long as its not really loud and at an anti-social hour i don't see the problem. Its part of living alongside neighbours.

Of course easy for me to say as my nearest neighbour is a mile away smile

BelleWatling Mon 15-Jun-09 13:09:18

Get an ipod or ear plugs.
If it is antisocially loud and at late hours ask politely to turn it down.
The behaviour you describe is well within socially acceptable levels for people to do in their own homes. You say you can sometimes make out the song and occasionally people talk in THEIR OWN GARDEN until 1am.

I feel sorry for your kids if they have their outdoor time rationed.

As for 'chavvy' - I mean seriously? Does that include Radio Three or Four? I doubt it.

mayorquimby Mon 15-Jun-09 13:16:17


SilentBob Mon 15-Jun-09 13:17:41

I am another who despairs of the lack of community spirit some people have these days. Mind you, I don't think it's unreasonable to have friends and family around talking or listening to music at 1 o'clock in the morning either, so maybe I am the weird one. I actually like hearing other people relaxing and having fun.

jumpyjan Mon 15-Jun-09 13:18:36

Havent had time to read the other posts but imo yanbu. I hate any sort of inconsiderate behaviour with regards to noise and I think it must be annoying for you. I don't understand why some people have to have 'noise' all the time when in the garden in the summer - its so nice to just hear the birds/aeroplanes flying by and other lovely summer sounds.

I have noticed my allotment neighbour is the same and always has to have radio on.

I have had noise issues from a neighbour in the past and unfortunately it is not an easy thing to resolve.

MrsBartlet Mon 15-Jun-09 13:19:13

YANBU at all. I think it is very selfish for people to inflict their own taste in music on others. You should be able to sit in your garden and enjoy some peace and quiet.

meemar Mon 15-Jun-09 13:21:08

Yabu. If you live where other people live, i.e, most places in a society, then you have to expect a reasonable level of noise.

And someone listening to their radio in their own garden is reasonable.

Katisha Mon 15-Jun-09 13:23:04

Actually I am in sympathy with OP, but got oversensitised to noisy neighbours in our last house.

I dont really want to hear someone else's music coming over the fence, but low rumble - well OK.

But what I really dont want to hear is windchimes! But that's another thread...

Just as selfish to inflict silence on someone who doesn't want it, surely?

We're not talking about someone raving in their house/garden from 6pm-6am with 80 people crammed in, we're talking about someone listening to the radio and someone else having an OCCASIONAL BBQ with friends and family.

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