My feed
Premium
Please
or
to access all these features

AIBU?

But what about me?

17 replies

SerendipitousHarlot · 21/04/2009 19:05

Why, as women and mothers, are we relegated to second class citizens when it comes to concern?

Why do everyone else's problems always come first?

I am sooo bored of having to listen to everyone's crap and drama and problems.

What about MY feelings? Whether I'M alright? Did I have a good day at work?

JUST ONCE?

AIBU?

OP posts:
Report
Numberfour · 21/04/2009 19:07

YADEFNBU

Report
EasyEggs · 21/04/2009 19:09

No YANBU I completely agree with you on this one

Report
EasyEggs · 21/04/2009 19:10

Did you have a good day at work?

Report
goodnightmoon · 21/04/2009 19:10

by all means speak up and have a good moan to all around! does everyone actually cut you off mid-whinge?

Report
DuffyFluckling · 21/04/2009 19:11

How are YOU, SH?

Report
Tortington · 21/04/2009 19:11

i swear i have had the day from fucking hell and its about to get worse

and no yanbu, why can't some fucker help me out here - i am sick to the back teeth of them. bastards. unthoughtful uncaring bastards.

Report
Gentle · 21/04/2009 19:14

Yes how the devil are you, Serendipitous Harlot?

Report
SerendipitousHarlot · 21/04/2009 19:15

Oh you are all so lovely

I had a shit day at work, thanks for asking.

My dad and stepmum have split, my db and girlfriend have split and my bil and sil have split. Dh has an operation a while back, where I had to take a week of to look after him.... SO LET'S TALK ABOUT THEM AGAIN [ANGRY]

Anyway. How are all of you? Could I get you a cup of tea? Foot rub or something?

OP posts:
Report
Numberfour · 21/04/2009 19:16

A friend of mine said ages ago, before my Married with Children days, that she is no longer Kate, she is Wife and Mother.

Well, she never was Kate, seeing that is not her real name

Custardo, i read your posts with interest! What's up?

And SH, what happened today to bring this to light? Has it been simmering???

Report
picmaestress · 21/04/2009 19:17

Aww. Tell them to be nicer to you. Bellow it at them, actually. I'm not being flippant, it really works.

Report
Numberfour · 21/04/2009 19:23

x posts.... not a case of disinterest.

seems like You have kind of gotten lost in the whole thing.

Report
SerendipitousHarlot · 21/04/2009 19:28

But that's my point Numberfour. We all do. It's just taken for granted that we're always there for support, love, caring, advice.

But we need that too - why are we never offered it?

S'up custardo?

OP posts:
Report
Gentle · 21/04/2009 19:39

Can I add another one to the Wife and Mother list - daughter/DIL and grand-daughter?

What could be more fun than staggering to 10pm looking after everyone else, than to have matriarchs ringing you, picking holes in your affairs and then telling you that "you'll miss these days when you're old and lonely like me?"

Probably true, but I find that it really doesn't help me get a sense of perspective in that particular knackered, stain-encrusted moment

Report
TheCrackFox · 21/04/2009 19:45

Oh, add me to the list. I think people forget that I have my own identity not just wife/mum/daughter etc.

Report
lizziemun · 21/04/2009 19:46

YANBU.

My mum had a sign made up which she hung on the kitchen door saying

"BEFORE WHINGING PLEASE CHECK WHAT MOOD THE COOK IN IF DINNER IS REQUIRED".

We soon learnt to ask how her day had been, before telling her our problems .

Report
Tortington · 21/04/2009 21:31

pmal @ the irony. a thread where i thought i could say what i thought, to be countered by pointed posts about how this was about the op.



sorry for the faux pas. hope your day gets better

wanders off to cry

Report
DuffyFluckling · 22/04/2009 09:39

I cross posted with you Custy, and wasn't being pointed at all. Haven't been back to the thread since. Sorry you're having a rotten time.

Report
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.