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To have thrown bits of whats left of my garden plant on a neighbour's lawn?

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Ripeberry · 19/04/2009 21:47

Aarrgh! For some reason one of the neighbour's teenage girls has it in for me all of a sudden. She always seemed quite nice and polite and i usually get on with her, but it could be hormones or something but in the last two weeks she has been kicking balls over our wall (on purpose) as i've seen her doing it.
She knows i'm growing veg on the other side. She gets her friends to ask stupid questions and when she passes me talks about knives! This is all from a 13yr old and we are in the middle of the countryside so not part of a gang.
And tonight she was sitting on our wall (again) talking to her 16yr old boyfriend and his mates (he has a moped so must be at least that age) and she was just stripping one of the plants by my wall and picking up gravel and throwing it everywhere. The boyfriend and mates did not join in.
So i went out to check as if i went out there i don't know if they have knives?
Anyway i've picked it all up and thrown it on their lawn (their won't notice as its a mess anyway) and if they have a go i'll just say she made all the mess so she can clean it up!
They were lucky i did not put it through their letterbox.
And don't tell me to ignore this, as i've tried this and it just makes them worse.
Oh yeah and a few days ago they were breaking eggs on our pavement, no-where else just by our house.
I'm going to have a word with the mum tomorrow...nicely but it depends on her.

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nametaken · 19/04/2009 21:52

Back to school tomorrow thank God. She sounds bored, inadequently parented, and showing off to her 16 year old boyfriend.

Where are her parents in the school holidays. Coz maybe they think she's grown up enough to leave home alone. If she's dropping eggs on your pavement, clearly she's not.

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Ripeberry · 19/04/2009 21:56

The parents are at home, the mum does not work as she has to care for her elderly parents so that is why i'm holding back a bit. I don't want to get nasty with them as they are usually good kids and have been in the past.
Unless teenagers turn into social monsters overnight!

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hotwheels · 19/04/2009 21:57

Video the vile little madam and if the parents dont do anything then take it to the police, (not sure if that is allowed/legal)

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nametaken · 19/04/2009 21:59

Well you said it just started over the last 2 weeks so Im guessing she was bored in the Easter holidays.

If it were me, I'd leave it for now and see how it goes. She might be OK now they're back to school tomorrow. BUT. I wouldn't let it go if it started up again in the next holiday. I'd say something. To her first, nicely, then her parents.

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RustyBear · 19/04/2009 22:05

"Unless teenagers turn into social monsters overnight!"

Umm - sorry, but yes, they do! Usually around 13, too.

Don't worry though they do eventually turn back. I am mum to a 21 y-o & 19 y-o, so have been through it and come out the other side relatively intact, with only a slight tendency to twitch uncontrollably at the sight of a pack of hair dye....

I agree with nametaken, I think she is showing off to the older boyfriend, which is why you won't get anywhere confronting her if she is there.

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Ripeberry · 19/04/2009 22:14

That's what i thought Rustybear, but even the boyfriend and mates thought she was being weird. I usually like to keep myself to myself and not start confrontations but the mess outside this evening was disgusting and for my own sanity i had to this (childish thing), just so that she knows i'm onto her and if she persists she will get worse.

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RumourOfAHurricane · 19/04/2009 22:22

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TheSmallClanger · 19/04/2009 22:29

I would have a quiet word with the mum. If you feel too angry, could you get your DP to do it?

I would also not chuck dead plants on their garden as it makes you look a bit childish. I would imagine it was quite cathartic, though.

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RustyBear · 19/04/2009 22:36

Yes, I know it sounds daft, but it can be seen as cool among teenagers to be thought weird. (Most of DD's friends seem to fall into this category ) But she may simply have been trying to impress him & misjudged it.

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Ripeberry · 20/04/2009 16:35

Well had a word with the mum this morning and she knows her daughter is a pain at the moment as some other neighbours have been complaining.
I said that i would pick up the bits but she said that her daughter will do it.
Any more problems then i can ring the mum and she will deal with it.
So a result there, but we'll see how long it lasts