My old Best freind had added me on FB........

[Biglips]

but im still annoyed with her and i forgotton about her till now. grr

she was my best mate for many years and did lots of things, she fell pg at 16 and went on to have 2 more totalling 3. i always kept in touch with her meaning i was the one who did all the running to go to her house which i didnt mind as i didnt have any kids at the time but whenever i mentioned for her to come to see me...i dont hear from her for months so it was like that for a while. So i sent her a letter with my email addy and we had a brief talk with her upsetting me as she was stating that i never kept in touch cos she was pg (my mum was furious as she knew that was a lie) and she had kids whilst i was out partying!...and she said to me that its up to me to stay in touch with her so she doesnt bother to keep track. i emailed back saying that she is a liar and i did keep in touch and she moved about 4 times to different houses but not one cos my parents was getting divorced and i moved far away for a while. so the last time i heard from her whilst my oldest who is 4 (5 in oct - she had never met my kids) was 2 and now she added me to be her friend.

i felt like she was blaming me for having kids too young as we are teh same age - im 6 months older than her - but her oldest is 16 and my mine is nearly 5.

i wanted to add her but then i dont.

[MargaretMountford]

um,she can't add you unless you agree,surely ?

[Biglips]

yes thats right as she asked me to be her friend - sorry for the confusion

[TrinityIsGettingABabyRhino]

you know she means that she has tried to add her as a friend and she is awaiting confirmation or rejection marg

sounds really tough, she doesn't sound very much like a good friend

no advice I wouldn't have a clue what to do
sorry

[MargaretMountford]

sounds complicated I agree,do you know,life is too short to get in a pickle with stuff like this - I'd leave it

[PartOfTheHumphreysGroup]

Yabu

[troutpout]

There doesn't sound like there is any love lost tbh...just a lot of simmering resentment

Do you want to be a friend? On what level? Do you want to be a best friend like you did before? If so,you will have to either get over any old resentments and attempt a more mature friendship that accommodates your changing lives..or forge a new relationship on a different level.
She doesn't have to be a best friend...just an old aquaintance that you keep tabs on for old times sake.Maybe email is a better way of maintaining a occasional news type of friendship...that way she doesn't have a window into your life like she would on fb

or if your gut feeling is that you don't wwant her in your life ..then just ignore the request.

[Biglips]

yes im not looking for her to be my best friend but as an old friend and ive got plenty of good friends here.

To be honest, when she sent me her first email saying hiya, i replied back saying hiya etc and then her fella replied back saying that i was never there for her etc and then i replied back saying thats a lie, then i think it was her who replied back saying its up to you to keep in touch so really i dont know if it was her fella who i spoken to all this time...i really dont know....

[Uriel]

Ignore the request. Sounds like you'll just be asking for a lot of hassle rehashing old issues.

[HecAteTheEasterBunny]

I'd ignore it. What's the point of going back to all that? Sometimes you just need to put people in the past.

[pavlovthepregnantcat]

Just ignore it, the past is the past. If it has bad memories that could not be resolved then, unlikely to be resolved now.

[hayley2u]

well it sounds a little petty. ad we all fall ou with frinds at some pnt i would forgive and forget personally , are you not intriguesd what she s been up to etc mybe she s realised she as i the wrong

[Biglips]

i think ill sleep on it for abit as never had bad memories at all and no hatred or anything like that but it was just strange the way she was like with me out of the blue.

anyway

thanks for the advices everyone but im not gonna rush back into or might not bother at all.

[Meglet]

Ignore it and block her. It does sound like you'll be opening up a can of worms.

[KimiAteTooManyEasterEggs]

She was just bitching because she made a mess of her life and you have done much better with yours.

Do not except her as a friends then go to settings and block her. DH1 has a massive b lock list...most of his family in fact.

[junglist1]

I was going to say maybe it's a way of opening contact because she feels bad, but then when I saw her bloke had a go at you I just thought it was weird, so I agree maybe it's more hassle than it's worth.