I met up with a bloke a briefly knew just before christmas. It was a kind of date but I say, we knew each other very briefly before but this was the first time we went out 'like that' iyswim?
Anyway the date went ok. Not great but could have been worse. He asked to see me again and we arranged to go for a coffee that weekend. When I met him, he brought along his daughter. She was 11 at the time.
I wasn't very pleased about him introducing me to her so soon, especially as I knew it wasn't going anywhere between us but he said he had nobody to look after her.
Anyway we met up a few times after that and he brought her along quite a few times. Then one day she phoned me asking if I would like to go and see a movie with her. I wasn't pleased about him giving her my phone number but I hid this from the girl and suggested she go with a friend. She seemed upset and offended. I caved and took her to see the film.
She then began phoning me all the time. Popping around to my house on her own etc and when she had a hospital apointment, she asked if I'd go with her. I did but I told her dad that something had to change as it was unfair to the girl to get so attached to me. He told me she was doing it because he hated her own mother and never saw her from the age of 9.
Anyway it's just got worse and worse. He got me to explain periods to her, sort her out with stuff saying she had nobody else. She phoned me in tears one day saying she was coming around as people were bullying her at school. When I phoned him (when she got here) he asked if I'd go into school with her!!
It's just ridiculous. I don't even see him anymore but I'm still parenting his daughter. I do like her but she isn't mine and I don't really want to carry on like this. I have kids of my own to worry about, I don't really need another one.
I feel awful and its nothing against her. But I think I'm probably BU arnt I?
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To not want to keep parenting this girl?
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CousCousWuss · 25/02/2009 21:19
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