this is going to be long so bear with me....I am rather annoyed/upset with my mum. The thing is she will not do anything to help me and the kids. I am a single parent with four kids( including 1 yo twins) and I know it not her "responsibility" as she always says but she will do nothing at all to help me. I do absaloutley everything 4 the kids mainly on my own. It is hard as I work p/t also..and I know its not "her fault i on my own. If i ask her for help i.e- would you come to a shop with me or would you take my daughter d1 and son d2 somewhere...she goes all off with me. I really have tried talking to her but she said she wants her time 2 herself and has no time for my children and how she has mounds and mounds of wahing and ironing to do (she lives with my step dad and my grown up brother). This really upsets me as although I understand she is busy(aren't we all though and it patronises me as if she could see my ironing pile she would flip)she works so again I know she busy but I also work ..and i know alot of other grandmas that still work and make an effort with their grankids. I feel she could make time a bit just for the sake of my children to make an effort but no. When I go round there I have to take toys etc to entertain them as she has nothing ..and we not even allowed to sit in the living room. The kids are not aqllowed to make noise or touch anything. I JUST DONT GET HER! The final straw was a few weeks ago when I was really concerned with one of the twins and asked her (in the nicest possible way )would she watch my eldest 2 while i took the twins to a and e. She hung up on me. This is how i get treated by her then she will ignore me 4 a few weeks then expect everything to be fine.
I just feel heartbroken by this as I feel my kids need a grandmother. I am proud of how I cope with themm all on my own . I just cant believe she is like this with her grandchildren ... who are all adorable kids ..they all have there moments but they are good kids. aND I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY SHE WONT DO ANYTHING...She has only looked after the twins once...ever and this was for half an hour. I understand people want space etc but it not like I round there all the time.. I am allowed to go round once a week (if that) for an hour and a half and she tells me b4 hand i can only come for an hour.Its like I have to make an appointment.
If one of my kids ended up on their own, even if I was busy I would look after them..even if it was for one day a month..or once in a blue moon so thay could go out. I missed my best friends wedding because she wouldnt come with me or look after one of the babies 4 me. she has never had any of them over night.. I am sorry I am rambling now but how would u feel? Are any of u out there in the same boat. Am I selfish? or is she?
AIBU?
to expect my mum to help a little bit
chellimum · 31/01/2009 01:28
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