To dislike being snapped at or should I not have said anything?

[SweetAudrina]

I was in town today with my mother. She bought a tiny tin of varnish from one shop and asked for a bag. They wern't happy but gave her one anyway ... a big shopping sized bag for one little tin.

Then we went in another shop and she bought a jar of drinking chocolate and a couple of chocolate bars. The woman on the till said "would you like a bag?" and my mum said "yes please" but the other bag she had was almost empty!

So all I said was "why don't you just put them all in that bag?" and I said it nicely.

My mother then snapped "Because I have THAT in there!!" but really nasty. I then said "well there's still room in it!"

Later, I think she felt a bit guilty for snapping because she tried to make light of it but it really annoyed me. I know it sounds petty but she does this all the time, you say one thing out of line and she snaps instantly, however if anyone snaps at her she goes in a massive sulk for days.

So was she in the wrong for snapping or should I just not have said anything?

[tumtumtetum]

ROFL

Classic mum-daughter interaction!

Maybe she hoards all the bags as one day they will come in useful (like my mum).

No I don't think you should have bitten your tongue - you weren't rude to her.

Sorry but it's so funny just like a conversation I would have with my mum. They drive you up the wall don't they

[SweetAudrina]

She's so wasteful, it really winds me up lol

[12StoneNeedsToBe10]

I'd have said the same thing - why carry more bags than you need to? A little odd that your mum had cause to snap though.

[SoMuchToBits]

This is exactly the sort of thing my dh would have done. If I make any suggestions (however nicely) he snaps at me, but he expects me to respond to his suggestions with good grace. I think some people just don't like anyone suggesting that their way of doing things may not be the best way!

[Tamarto]

Maybe she felt you were trying to show her up in front of the sales assistant?

YANBU though.

[OhBling]

Yup. YANBU at all. But if you figure out a way to change her, please tell me so I can do the same with my mum!

[minouminou]

breeeeeaaathe deeply, and let your imagination transport you forwards to the day you choose her nursing home................

[happystory]

Don't get me started on shopping with my mother. She insists on walking three paces behind me all the while carrying on a conversation with me. Not even a 'Those dresses are nice' conversation but something rambling about her neighnour's daughter's baby or the late arrival of the evening paper....

So no YANBU and I sympathise hugely.

[Tabithacat]

My mum wouldn't have wanted to put food in with something that smelt - I know, I know it was in a tin, but this is MY mother. She would have snapped because she would have thought the assistant might not give her another bag if I pointed out she already had one.

Mums are odd like that...

[OhBling]

oh Happy, that reminds me of my classic shopping with my mum story.There I in a department store with my mum and dad who were visiting. Dad went off to buy something specialised and technical and mum and I were browsing the handbag section while we waited - ie moving very very slowly around the handbag shelves. I stopped to look at one in particular and my mum walked straight into me - she'd been walking so close behind me that she didn't even notice me stopping.

[littlelyn]

minouminou - lol.

SweetAudrina - Of course YANBU - you deserve a medal for going shopping with your mum! She did slip up though as my mum would have bought the tin of varnish last considering on the grounds of it being a hazardous substance and probably heavier! Whenever I take my mum shopping I always return home empty handed because as soon as she's got what she wanted - and we invariably have to go to her shops first - she's tired and wants to go home for a cup of tea. Apparently no cafe in town can make a decent cup of tea. [groan with head in hands]

[MorrisZapp]

First rule of mums. They can carp at you all day long but the moment you say one polite, calm suggestion to them they go mental.

I'm glad it's not just my mum who is like this!

[Desiderata]

Does she have a dog? You need loads of poo bags when you have a dog.

[Fairynufff]

YANBU but go easy - you'll miss her when she's gone...

[purpleduck]

Maybe you shouldn't moniter her bag usage?

Just a thought

[AnyFucker]

if this is all you have to complain about....

[SweetAudrina]

My mum also wants to rush home as soon as she's got what she wants. BUT, she has the annoying habit of turning it around on ME:

"Do you want to go home? you're looking tired"
(me "No, I'm fine")
"don't be worried about saying ... we can go home now if you want?"
(me "no, I'm fine")

at this point she pulls a face and snaps "well, what else do you need? my feet are hurting now, arnt yours?"
(me "no, I'm fine") etc etc

The most annoying bit about it is this bit:

(me "oh ok ... we can leave now")
mum - "what? now? bit early isn't it? lol