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to think that if someone has just a baby...

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beanieb · 23/01/2009 13:26

other people should wait until the parents have announced it officially (and the name of the baby) before posting congratulations with the name and sex onto their facebook page?

or am I just being precious? it's not my baby BTW.

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HeadFairy · 23/01/2009 13:29

YANBU, it's their news to tell. In the same theme it's not acceptible to tell people someone's pg, as my mum did, telling the entire family I was pg with my first before I'd even had my first scan. It's just not on.

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chloejessmeg · 23/01/2009 13:30

depends on situation. Maybe they won't get to a computor for a while?

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DorisIsAPinkDragon · 23/01/2009 13:32

Think it is a wee bit precious.... How long did they leave it are we talking hours or days here, I think that makes a little bit of difference as the congratulator may just have been overjoyed for the couple and not realised that they'd not told anyone yet??

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Catz · 23/01/2009 13:42

O dear you've worried me now. I posted on someone's facebook page a few days ago after I'd received a text (from her) to say pleased to announce birth of baby X etc. Is that awful? I wasn't the first post either. Though thinking about it I may have been the first to mention the name.

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SlipOfTheTongue · 23/01/2009 13:48

On a similar note,when I had DD2, my FIL emailed photos of her round to all the family before I'd even got home. It really pissed me off cos those first photos should have come from us not him. When DH told him that, he said he'd done it cos he was excited over her arrival - fair enough I suppose, but clearly he did he not think we were excited enough to do it ourselves?!

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June2009 · 23/01/2009 13:57

Was it long after they were told? Some people may assume that everybody else knows.
Unless you tell people specifically not to say then you can't really help people being excited about it.

I got really hacked off when my sil announced my pregnancy on her facebook when she was under strict instructions not tell anyone. Her excuse was that we don't have common friends. As a matter of fact we do and one of them is one of my closest friends who had been trying to conceive for a couple of years, I wanted to tell them myself face to face.

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Surfermum · 23/01/2009 13:58

It wouldn't bother me. Dh rang and texted everyone from the hospital.

She was born in the middle of a training exercise at the beach (we're volunteer lifeguards) and it was announced over the radio. Apparently there were lifeguards running around all excited shouting "Surferbaby's here! Surferbaby's here".

And it was the weekend of our Association's annual conference where my sister was, and all weekend she'd kept getting asked if I'd had the baby, so when she got the text she got the Chairman to announce it to all 300 delegates during his closing speech.

All while I was still having my stitches done!
So, no it wouldn't worry me.

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TinkerBellesMumandFiFi2 · 23/01/2009 14:01

I agree it depends on the situation. I sent a text and asked for the message to be passed on because my baby was early and I didn't know how long we'd be in. I also sent photos by text to be uploaded.

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princessx2 · 23/01/2009 14:01

My Sil posted details/photos about my baby's birth while I was still in the hospital - it didn't bother me as I knew it would take ages for me to get round to it.
However the same sil told her cousin about my second pregnancy (even though she was told not to say anything as I was spotting) and she is a blabbermouth and told the whole family. I received phone calls congratulating me a day after the hospital had confirmed a miscarriage. To say I was angry is an understatement!

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gingerninja · 23/01/2009 14:02

Well unless they'd expressed strict instructions not to tell then I can't see what the problem is to be honest. If the people posting were announcing it then it'd be a little odd but they were offering their congratulations.

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Mamazon · 23/01/2009 14:03

I'd be gratefull.

i called my mate and asked her to inform everyone so that i didn't get a million and one calls

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beanieb · 23/01/2009 14:34

It was a couple of hours after the birth, maybe within the hour. Though the mother did send a photo on her mobile with the weight and name. I dunno - I am probably being precious. When/if I have my baby I think I will specifically ask this person not to facebook it as it would piss me off if she announced it to everyone rather than me TBH.

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lilQuidditchKel · 23/01/2009 14:41

Maybe we should start an AIBP thread...

(you are being a bit precious IMHO - if you tell someone you've had a baby it's only natural for them to share the good news...)

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MKG · 23/01/2009 14:44

I would be more upset if someone put info/pictures of my children on the internet without my permission. People can tell whoever they like, but posting it for random people to see isn't cool in my book.

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beanieb · 23/01/2009 14:48

ok - I am being precious

but when I have my kids I think I will do everything I can to not tell this person until I have 'announced' it myself

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Ashantai · 23/01/2009 14:48

Unless the new mum specifically said she wanted to be the one giving the good news,i dont see the prob.

Frankly after i gave birth, i didnt give a rats who announced it . I was a bit busy enjoying my new baby to be on the phone telling everyone else

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cat64 · 23/01/2009 14:51

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chloejessmeg · 23/01/2009 14:57

To be honest. If you don't want your info shared online and for people to know your buisness, DONT join facebook! With facebook, people will find out stuff before you tell them, thats just how it works i'm afraid.

And telling people about your pregnancy when you have told them not to is a completly different matter IMO. It is a secret.

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2pt4kids · 23/01/2009 15:07

My sister had a baby yesterday (yay!) and texted me all the details from the hossie.
I wrote on her facebook page when i was looking at facebook last night....
I assume that she texted anyone important to her when she texted me!

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WelliesAndPyjamas · 23/01/2009 15:07

It might bother some people. But personally I think life is too short to worry about things like this. It's lovely news whoever you hear it from. Where I live, it is considered good luck to be the first to hear any news .

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bronze · 23/01/2009 15:09

I guess you be grateful that people care!

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