Today I heard that DH, DS and I will be spending Christmas Day, here at home on our own, DD is at her dad's but I have coped with that for the past few years as we have alternate Christmas Day/Boxing Day arrangement.
Well we were supposed to be going to one of my family for Christmas - I was so looking forward to it - my mum died when I was really small and due to my father marrying an utter bitch and lots of complicated problems - which are far too long to go into - I don't really have any other family on my side.
Well a relative of my family member died the week before last and so I said that if my relative doesn't fancy doing Christmas Day I am quite happy to do it - that wasn't wanted but today I have been told that it will be too many people for me and my lot (the 2 of them) to go there for the day - another relative, not on my side of the family, doesn;t like lots of people and worries about my relative having lots to do so 'sorry to let you down but you are uninvited!'.
I know it is silly but it is just something else to make me feel alone and worthless when it comes to my family - I don't have any other family - it is just them and I thought I meant as much to them as they do to me - I always look on them as sort of quasiparents - they were there at my wedding - one acted as mum and the other gave me away. Now I am back to feeling like a heap if shit - and I know I shouldn't be mean - there has been a bereavement and Christmas is always a tense time with lots to do but I just feel bloody empty and alone - yet again I am just not important enough to be included - not one of the 'proper' family if you like.
It is rideculous - we will have a great day - albeit a quiet one, me DH, DS and the dog - we will have our own Christmas dinner and presents and be able to do what we want but this has brought back all my feelings of being not wanted by my family.
God someone tell me I am being a cow and to get myself together before DH comes home please - DS thinks I have the most awful headache because I have been bloody sobbing whilst scrubbing the house today - but I have such a heavy feeling in my heart which just won;t go away.
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MadameCastafiore · 22/12/2008 14:59
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