...Ok - so maybe it was a stupid idea.
Background. We are taking on a nanny to help for 4 months with our 2 DC over the birth of DC3. We agreed to take her on starting 17 November when I will be 34 weeks pg (and have severe spd). She currently works at the nursery we used to send our DC to - but is very unhappy there - and has kept in touch since our DC left. We did not approach her - she approached us and the timing happened to fit.
She gave 5 weeks notice thinking it was sufficient - hardly leaving them in the lurch. Turns out she misread her contract (that she was only given a few weeks ago, despite having been there nearly 3 weeks) saying that she had to work up to the end of the month - ie two weeks later than we need her from.
The lady who owns the nursery is a strong character and alienates a lot of staff (but in her defence runs a damn tight ship). The nanny has had no joy getting any leeway on the notice. English is not her first language and she find the owner very initimidating.
So, I thought, I will ring up and be reasonable and see if we can reach a compromise. She basically told me that it was tough luck, she can't vary the notice terms and that she will only give a factual reference. I said I personally would give a reference that said she had failed to comply with the full notice but leave the rest of it unaltered (morally I would not change what i said about someone when she had just made a mistake). She then turned on me and said I shouldn't be threatening this nanny that she won't get the job unless she starts on the 17th and that I was the one at fault etc etc. I hung up after thanking her for her time but it has really really upset me.
Was it totally inappropriate for me to approach her? I wanted to reach a compromise - maybe split the 2 weeks or some of the days - given that it all arose over a mistake (rather than the nanny wanting to walk out and leave her in the lurch).
Sorry this is a boring AIBU - but it really upset me to be spoken to like that....
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Turniphead1 · 20/10/2008 14:45
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