I have opened partners credit card statement this morning, that is the bit where i think i am being unreasonable.
here explains why i've opened it though.
Basically his statement shows he has not made a payment on his card for three months. He told me the balance was fairly low, less than £500. It's actually more than double that.
And he is still insisting that we get a foreign holiday booked this week for half term.
He has saved £500 from a tax rebate he got last month. The holiday would cost about £900 plus spending money. He has said he is taking a further £500 from his wages this month to pay for his spending money and expects me to do the same.
I am so angry that he has lied about the card and is being irresponsible enough not to agree to delay the holiday.
He is just about to lose his job, (his fault) we are in a recession and christmas is on the horizon.
I am so sick and tired of his teenager attitude to money.
We both earn a really good wage yet he lives month to month because he wastes all his spare cash.
His card payment is only £37 if he wanted to just pay the minimum. (it's a low interest card at the moment).
He spent more than £60 this weekend on himself on drinks and food etc.
This has been a recurrent theme for the whole time we have lived together. (4 yrs now)
I pay the bills and worry about them, he spends his cash and goes absolutely mental if i point things like this out to him.
For example, last month i came home to find he had put the heating on full blast and was sitting in his shorts.
I have always paid the energy bills, i turned the thermostat down to 19 which is more than warm enough. We are not in the depths of winter yet ffs, he wnet mental, turned it back up again and started spouting off lots of crap about how mean i am and if i don't want to keep our kids warm he will pay and i can fuck off.
He is constantly irrational and selfish, i don't want to have sex with him anymore as i am so pissed off with him all the time. He in turn is pissed off because i won't have sex with him....
I think it is curtains really, but i need to find a way to try one last time to sort this out for the kids really.
If i leave, he will lose the house and probably his dd as well. At the moment we have her most of the time as her mum doesn't cope very well, but this is mostly because i am here. I am the one who chases up her school issues etc, buys clothes, checks homework ad infinitum.
Any practical advice will be gratefully received.
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i know i have been unreasonable, but so has he, come and help me sort out this mess
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NewspiritsFromOldghosts · 13/10/2008 10:51
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