OK, have namechanged for this because I feel such a no-mates loser
My 40th is coming up, dh and I thought we'd have a party, anticipated about 50 or 60 guests. As far as I can see about 25 are turning up and I know people can be incredibly flaky about cancelling at the last minute because they can't be arsed or the babysitter blew them out, so we may well end up with even fewer.
I just feel embarrassed, we sent out nice invitations, gave people plenty of warning etc. But loads of people couldn't make it - they're away, will have just had a baby, all good reasons and so I'm not blaming anyone else, just feel dumb for having assumed they'd come.
It's also made me analyse my life - I had a big party when I was 34 just before I got pregnant with dd1 to celebrate a work success. It was heaving and a great night and I thought how lucky am I to have so many fantastic mates.
But in the intervening years loads have moved abroad/away or don't want to know me because I have dcs (mainly the gay ones). I'm self employed so don't have work friends but because I work don't have many mummy friends either as I don't do the playgroup circuit; certainly none I'd want to invite to a party without it being obvious I was desperately making up numbers .
In other words, I've lost a dozen or so old friends and not replaced them. Occasionally this bothers me but most of the time I'm quite philosophical about it. There is still a handful of hardcore friends and I think this is the unavoidable reality of working for yourself and having young dcs which with luck will change a bit when they go to school.
But anyway, what to do? I feel we've advertised a huge shindig and instead people will be attending a very intimate soiree. This would be fine if only close chums were coming, but in the mix will be a few oddities like various colleagues of dh who I invited because we owed them and our neighborus who might wonder why they were present at such a small and personal event.
So iw it too late and rude to cancel (is in a fortnight) and reorganise another smaller bash for a weekend when more people are around or do I just have to go ahead and not enjoy what should be a lovely occasion? Thanks for reading this long post.
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to want to cancel my 40th because hardly anyone is going to come?
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friendlessandforty · 02/10/2008 20:46
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