I am fuming, but DH thinks I'm making too much of it.
Last night we had a roast dinner and then left as soon as we'd eaten to go and see his parents. When we got back I sat down to watch tv and about half hour later DH said he was hungry so went out to the kitchen to get something to eat.
I could hear him shouting so went out to see what was wrong and he was banging stuff about shouting that the kitchen was a mess, how I never clean up (no comment) and with that he throws a plate into the empty sink and it smashes. I turned round and walked out and he threw a packet of crisps at me as I left (although he said he pushed them off the counter but they went quite far).
So my question is, am I unreasonable to see this as violent behaviour?
I grew up with violence and have been having counselling and talking about it and have come to realise the effect that even low level violence can have, and I think I have a right to tell DH that I don't want him to act like this.
We've had one serious violent episode between us about 18 months ago, which I thought I was over, but I am sick of living with someone who acts like a child when things don't go his own way (kicking and throwing things).
DH just thinks I'm being dramatic and what makes it worse is that he doesn't even think he did anything wrong (i.e having a go at me).
So many of our arguments just kind of fizzle out and don't get resolved but I'm determined not to let it happen this time as it means a lot to me.
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Would you define this as violence?
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AuntieMaggie · 29/09/2008 13:54
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