i had arranged with 2 friends to meet up once a week. in the morning (because of toddler naps in pm) at 9.30 am...have lunch home for naps.
one mum cool fine..other mum all over the place, always cancels etc mum one goes to pick her up (she doesn't drive) and she isn't dressed, her son has not eaten, nappy needs changing. so all our plans are set back by hours.
i am not anal about routine for my ds but he has only just dropped his morning nap, needs to eat lunch before 2 pm and needs to nap for 1 1/2 to 2 hours waking before 4 or he gets over tired, won't eat, cries...just generally suffers unnecessarily. he CAN do it and i do just do a 40 min buggy/car seat nap once a week ish , but my preference is not.
i am not organised, live in chaos, am not great at housework so am in no way at all a super mum but if i have arranged to be somewhere ESPECIALLY if they have kids, i try and get there on time...i know how hard it is to have to wait in with an energy filled toddler (i live in a one bed flat with no garden) and for ds to expect people and them be hours late (other mum arranged to meet her at midday one day and they finally met at 5.30 ??
i know it is hard to be on time with a toddler but i am generally within half an hour of when i said i would be somewhere.
i also try to arrange stuff to do most days in the morn with ds either friends or group or swimming but can't do anything if i am waiting in.i feel horribly resentful as i wait to which i detest in myself
i really really like this chaotic mum (she is kind of intellectual eccentric mama)and feel crap that i am being so judgemental but it really does my head in
if she could drive we could carry on but it all kind of hinges on her.
i have tried having it all at mine so my ds can nap ...needless to say he absolutely would not nap with 2 toddlers in other room !
what can i do to make this work.
it was my suggestion too so maybe i was asking too much? i thought it would be a simple, once a week arrangement !?
or maybe we just need to let go of any routine on Wednesdays and follow her lead and see how it goes ?
maybe there is a lesson in all this ?
maybe i need to go out locally and get them to call when they are on their way ?
are there any other disorganised mums out there who can tell me the best way to deal with it?
i have never posted here before so please be easy on me
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mamazee · 16/09/2008 20:45
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