in not wanting the neighbours kids turning up every day ....

[Stuffedcat]

...wanting to play with my daughter, she?s 3, they are all about 7 or 8. I have let them play with her in the garden for a few days on the trot and they have been round every single day since (often different groups of them at different times). Tbh I don?t know if they are interested in playing with her over somewhere new and different toys,

They are lovely kids but the age difference is too much (I also have a 14 month old) really to let them play in her room without supervision from me.

I don?t want to appear mean but with the school holidays coming up am thinking I need to get this sorted and think of what to say without hurting their feelings?!. By the way she likes playing with them but sometimes appears to be ?on the outside??

[Jelliebaby]

I understand what you mean and I dont think your mean. I have a next door neighbour who has a little boy of 4, he use to always play in the garden on his own and then all of a sudden all the kids from the street use to come in the garden and play with him, they were all about 7 or 8, boys and girls and always different ones. The parents didnt seem to mind but when i was also in my garden i could see them and they weren't interested in playing with him just his bikes, scooters and basket ball ring. They would often ignore him or play tick and he would always have to be on and could never catch them. It was quite sad to watch. I have a 3 year old daughter and i won't be letting any older kids play in the garden or house with her.

Maybe invite a friend of her own age round to amuse her.

[pointydog]

This is what children do - it's novel for them, it keeps them amused. You just have to be really firm and say you don't want lots of children in the garden and when dd is older she'll be able to play out. Smile, goodbye.

Their feelings won't be hurt.