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AIBU?

owing to SATS week next week, not to let my 10 year old dd go to a sleepover this weekend?

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SlartyBartFast · 08/05/2008 22:28

i know she will be sooo knackered.
dh agrees with me.
anyone else?

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S1ur · 08/05/2008 22:29

I would be more concerned about my dcs being knackered for a 'normal' school day personally

I detest SATS, probably better to snooze through them really.

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LittleBella · 08/05/2008 22:30

Depends.

Are SATs that important? Is it going to affect what secondary school she is going to be allowed to go to?

DS is doing SATs at the moment and I wouldn't dream of allowing them to impede his normal life, but he is 8 and they don't matter. I might feel differently if the results were going to influence his access to secondary school.

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misdee · 08/05/2008 22:31

dont agree with you.

dont like SATS

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SlartyBartFast · 08/05/2008 22:32

no secondary school already decided, but they do stream them for certain subjects.

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2shoes · 08/05/2008 22:32

no sats are crap

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mumeeee · 08/05/2008 22:33

Let her go. SATS are not that important. They have been stpped here in Wales.

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misdee · 08/05/2008 22:33

they dont stream in the first year do they?

we always got streamed in year 8 after year 7 exams.

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Tinker · 08/05/2008 22:34

My daughter is doing her SATs next week and is having a friend sleep this weekend. Hadn't occurred to me not to tbh.

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SlartyBartFast · 08/05/2008 22:34

i think maths and science?
according to ds, but he wasnt really listening...
will ask him again, when he is not engrossed in computer

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Polgara2 · 08/05/2008 22:35

Well I would like to think it doesn't matter because way too much emphasis is placed on SATs but.....
I know that if dd didn't do well in her SATS she would be disappointed so on that basis I would agree with you.

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S1ur · 08/05/2008 22:35

Even with streaming, secondary schools are open to move pupils around between groups if they are set inappropriately.

TBH by not letting her go, you are putting a fair bit of importance on the SATs which might make her nervous about it and therefore have performance anxiety and thus mess up.

So really, letting her enjoy herself, reasonably, could be seen as preparation for getting a truer picture of her academic hoop jumping. d'ya see?

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SlartyBartFast · 08/05/2008 22:36

good point slur.

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CrackerOfNuts · 08/05/2008 22:41

YABU

Dd1 is in yr5, and I am ont sure what tests
exactly it is that they are doing soon but I am not impressed that she seems so stressed out about how she does in them.

Last night instead of watching one of her fave programes, she wanted to look for Maths sites for revision, when she'd been doing Math revision all day at school. I said no, watch your programme.

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SlartyBartFast · 08/05/2008 22:43

ok it doesn't help that she is nto invited for party event as such, just sleep over afterwards

rather like being invited to the evening wedding reception only.

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Candlewax · 08/05/2008 22:48

Originally I was going to say ignore the SATS because they are for the Government only and secondary schools make up their own minds for streaming at the end of year 7.

Now you have said the second part - Well... does she really want to go? If so I would let her. Or, are you offended that she gets the "evening" invitation only?

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SlartyBartFast · 08/05/2008 22:49

think i will have to retract my refusal based on this..

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marymay · 08/05/2008 22:49

I hate the SATs .They put the children under so much stress.
They test them again when they go to secondary school.
let her go

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RosaLuxembourg · 08/05/2008 22:52

I don't think you are being unreasonable, but then I am not keen on termtime sleepovers at all - often DD1 is like a bear with a sore head the next day and spoils the day for all of us. Depends on who the sleepover is with though and how many others were there. Some mums let them stay up and watch DVDs until 5am - some are a bit stricter. Incidentally, DD herself prefers the stricter ones.
Rambling a bit there but essential point is potentially YANBU depending on what state she is likely to be in the next day.

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SlartyBartFast · 08/05/2008 22:54

a bad state judging by past experiences. and she loves staying up all night.
so it would be a pity to have her exhausted.

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jellybeans · 08/05/2008 22:57

It wouldn't bother me, i don't stress about SATS, as long as DD is happy and learning that's all i care about. Sleepover would be fine.

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CarGirl · 08/05/2008 23:03

I'm acutally taking dd to stay at her friends for the weekend (they moved away) and they both of yr 6 SATS, not the best timing but it only really matters to the schools anyway. It would really p* the schools off though if they did badly as the are both predicted solid 5's - oops!

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duchesse · 08/05/2008 23:06

Completely agree with Slur.

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duchesse · 08/05/2008 23:08

PS: Sats are a pile of poo. They are there to test the SCHOOL not the child. I am so f$cked off with hearing about schools/ parents putting children through the mill about the stupid things.

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SlartyBartFast · 09/05/2008 16:55

well remembered to tell DD that she could now go, did not tell her curtesy of MN! Told her it was only SATS..
but now typically she is having doubts as the girl is being mean to another friend of hers..... aren't they always.

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OrmIrian · 09/05/2008 16:58

Well actually my lad is so burnt out by the whole thing that we've been letting him off the leash more than usual. As long as it isn't Sunday night and you can guarantee a reasonable night's sleep before school I would let her go.

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