Name change for this. In case it sparks a discussion that gets too heated for the daytime. And because friends of mine might see me on here.
So, this is the story. Its probably going to be long. Bear with me.
My friend, a good friend lives in a rough part of a city in the South West. Her parents own the property, her and her husband live there as if it was theirs. It is an estate of family houses, some are owned, some are still local authority owned. Either side of them are local authority properties. One is a three bedroomed property owned by people they get on with and see socially. Lets call them K and E. They have 6 children (one is a week old), all under 7.
One is a four bedroomed property. Currently empty.
The local area has a history of racism. It is made up of 'local' stock, who are by and large nice people. However the particular rd on which my friend lives is notorious for trouble of all kinds, setting fire to the park, fights, abuse of local residents.
This empty property used to be occupied by an ederly gentleman on his own and m friends were used to a quiet life on that side of their house (their bedroom). He moved out. K and E beleived it was their right to that property, as they were on the LA housing list, they already at this stage had 5 children in a 3 bedroomed property, it was rightfully theirs. My friend, being friends with them, agreed. So did some of their neighbours whom K and E knew since childhood.
A family of 2 adults and 5 children of African origin were moved into the property. English was not the native language of the parents but was of the children. Cue much uproar in the local community, it was not their property to have, how did they get it over and above others etc etc.
My friend, felt quite sorry for them. She said. Although she agreed it should have been given to K and E. At Christmas, the African neighbours sent one of their elder children over to my friend's house with two bottles of wine, and a card in rough english wishing them Merry Christmas. My friend was touched. She potted up some of her garden herbs and took them over to the family as a thank you. From this point on they xchanged words, hello, the kids played in her garden on occasion. But not when K and E were around.
The neighbours were not happy, K and E were not happy. The family suffered much abuse verbally.
Then they were attacked, one evening the father was outside his house and was attacked by several of those in the street. It was allegedly to do with a row about his chilhdren playing in the street. He was beaten, punched and kicked in front of his wife and children, called 'Paki' told to go home told. The police were called, the particular family who instigated and participated in the fight (father and son) were given eviction notices. The father was not seriously injured.
The family next to my friend were rehoused. But it took a while.
My friend kept saying she was shocked that those who insitigated the attack were to be evicted. She said 'They have never been like that to us, or anyone else in all the time we have been here (6 years), its not like them, I am not sure I beleive it happened like that'. I tried to explain she never suffered from abusive behaviour from them as she has white skin. She insisted not.
So, she is spending a lot of time with her friends K and E, who are furious that their other 'friends' are being evicted. She has for a while complained of the noise of having a family so close to her head when she sleeps, the baby screams and night and the mother shouts in african at it all the time, stuff like this creeping in.
The family were rehoused last week. My friend says to my DH in a very casual manner the pakis moved out a few days ago. Finally.
I am quite upset over two main things here.
- That m friend was so racist and blase about it
- That the council thought it a good idea to house an African family in a clearly racist area, where they were of course going to suffer from abuse?
AIBU?