To be pissed off with friend for feeding her daughter such rubbish?

[MyMummiesAScummyMummy]

Okay, i know about all the fruit shoot/sausage roll threads on here before but. My r/l friend has a 20month old DD, shes been ill with various infections for some time now and over the last 5 days had suffered from a severe stomach upset vomiting and the runs. Shes been on the phone to me daily crying about how sick he is how worried she is etc. Anyway today she is better I was at her house, she fed her (between 11am and 5pm) a chocolate bar, 4 packets of wotsits, most of the can of her coke , and for dinner JUST mini sausage rolls. I just can't believe that she fed her this in the current circumstances. Also she refused to eat fruit salad, pasta carbonara etc that my dc's were eating, ok have more wotsits .

Is it just me or would you find this wrong also?

[dizzydixies]

unfortunately her choice though
some people just don't realise that it may have an effect on their lo's health
what a shame

[bubblepop]

well I quite like wotsits

[LyraSilvertongue]

That lot will have an awful lot of salt in it. Is this a typical diet?

[wannaBe]

coke!

[LyraSilvertongue]

Far, far too much salt for a 20-month-old. Can you have a quiet word with her?

[MyMummiesAScummyMummy]

On a normal day fair enough, well, maybe. But after she's been so ill? I swear if she phones me tommorow to say shes ill again i shall swing for her .

[Thomcat]

I too was at a friends house today and was informed her Dd would "only eat crap". But if you introduce them to crap and let them eat it what do you expect? If you own 7 large varity packs of crisps and let them help themselves to the cupboards / fridge, what do you expect. No set meal times and a help yourself attitude - made me a bit tbh. just glad I gave my Dd lunch before we got there.

[dippydeedoo]

i dont think as an everyday diet that would do but am i alone in pandering to my childrens dietary whims when they are ill? i go by the theory anything to eat is better than nothing and if theyre gonna be sick they will be sick whatever.......plus the fact a child that can happily eat a happy meal/sausage roll/other undesirable treats cant be that ill anyway.
if im ill the only thing i fancy is chips and peas........and a slush puppy

[paddingtonbear1]

Is this what she normally gets fed do you know? Or maybe she just wanted her Lo to eat something, after being ill? It does sound bad, dd loves crisps and choc but 4 packs?
Fortunately dd never asks for fizzy even if I have it, maybe she knows I'll say no!

[QuintessentialShadow]

My gp said to me once. "when the child is ill, let the child eat what the child wants, as the most important thing is to get it back to eating, not what it eats". I stick to that. When my sons are truly on the mend, I go back to my standard diet which is totally lacking in crisps and fizz, biscits and chocs.

[LadyOfWaffle]

I would be inclined to say YANBU, but my DS pinches my coke sometimes (only drink for morning sickness, easier just not to have it in the house now DS is older), had a munchie today, some of my twix and a few weekends ago we went to the coast and he went really odd... sort of sleepy and glazed over, so I let him eat some err... packets of wotsits in the car. That is by no means his diet at ALL, he is up to his eye balls in couscous, fruit, fish etc. etc. but if someone had peered in the window that day when he has a packet of wotsits in his lap and was swigging from a 2ltr bottle of lemonade, I would have been slaughtered!

[WestCountryLass]

If she does phone saying she has been ill again you could say that because she has had a bad stomach bug she probably needs to stick to the BRAT diet for a few days:

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BRAT_diet

And that it might be worth giving the crisps and stuff a wideberth for a while. I always give mine digestive biscuits, toast and things that will bung them up and settle their stomachs.

Thing is with the coke and crap, some people do recommend flat coke and stuff after a tummy bug.

[MyMummiesAScummyMummy]

Pad bear, q shadow, thanks for that, yes i can kind of understand that someting is better than nothing but it was just the volume of crap that got to me, and the fact that the normal diet is'nt much better, apart from other infections and stomach upset shes already been told that dd's anaemic, and has internal thrush, surely all this sugar would just exacerbate the problem?

[scottishmummy]

Continue to be a good friend and support your mate don't judge or tut as she opens the wotsits.chances are she is struggling and resorting to junk food

she needs a mate, not another tutter to scowl

yeah long term is not nutritious, but maybe she needs help/support or practical tips from another mum with alternative ideas suggestions

i weaned on organic home made purees, and hey my mate used jars don't jeperdise a friendship over this

[MyMummiesAScummyMummy]

Thanks scottish mummy, by no means would this jepordise our friendship, and if anything she is the older more experienced one from my group of friends, i just felt slightly annoyed when this happened, please don't get me wrong, i'm by no means uptight about food and i believe in more or less anything-everything in moderation.

[DoodleToYou]

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[MyMummiesAScummyMummy]

Doodle, yes i feel that way to and just wanted to check general consensus before we had a chat.

[BroccoliSpears]

I've never heard of BRAT. Interesting.

OP: YANBU.

[paddingtonbear1]

if her normal diet isn't much better then yes there is def reason to be worried. I thought I was lax but...
obviously she does really care for her dd, so maybe a few tactful suggestions are in order! or there could be real problems later.

[LambethLil]

The only time I have let my DCs eat such crap was just when they were recovering from a tummy bug. Fluids and any salty/ sweet crap is just what's needed when they've had diarrhoea and vomitting. As to whether yabu I remember being really upset and disappointed when visiting a new friend and seeing her dish out bowls of spaghetti hoops to her and my DCs. In your case cut her some slack, but I know where you're coming from

[madamez]

When my DS had D&V the doctor recommended giving him coca cola. It's advisable to give that to kids with D&V as they will generally consume it and they need the fluds and the sugar.

Unfortunately DS spat it out in horror as he'd never had a fizzy drink in his life... But in your friend's case it does depend what sort of stuff her LO generally eats, as opposed to being indulged while ill.

[SparklyGothKat]

My SIL is terrible, she give her kids crap all the time. She has a cupboard of Fruit Shoots and Haribo full. She asked me if my kids could have any... I said no. On christmas day, they have christmas tree shaped chicken nuggets

[colander]

She isn't even 2 yet . Awful diet, not sure if there is anything you can do though.