For Feeling Uncomfortable About...........

[chinchi]

Im fairly new to the site so please bare with me if this has been covered before

Am I being unreasonable for being feeling not so good about DH downloading soft porn (for our sake he says) on the PC when Im laid in bed asleep right behind him??

Dont get me wrong Im no prude, but I dont feel the need to watch porn everytime we DTD, and I very rarely get pleasure from watching it anyway.

I woke up to DH watching one of his new downloads (hands nowhere near his pants might I add), but still feel quite weird about the whole thing.

Should I just forget it and get over it? Should I put it down to my sex drive being practically zero as to why its bothering me so much?

[Flier]

well I wouldn't like it tbh.
I suppose the fact he's not hiding it from you, though is a good sign.

[chinchi]

Thanks Flier
Yeah the fact that he isnt hiding it does make it abit easier, but still something inside me feels - nauseous (sp)

[Kinderherzen]

Tbh, if it is bothering you then you should ask him to stop.

Have you mentioned that you don't like it? What did he say?

[nickytwotimes]

I wouldn't like it either. I find porn disgusting but more besause of the way it depicts women rather than the whole sex thing. If it is something a couple enjoy tigether then fine, but you are a couple and sex should be a shared thing, however you go about it.

[Flier]

yeah, its a bit disrespectable IMO

[chinchi]

I have mentioned it, but he just says its something different for us to try and that its not hurting anyone- true indeed I suppose??
Aaarrrgggghhhh maybe I am being a prude LOL

[Flier]

yeah, something for US to try, not when you're sleeping next to him and he's watching on his own. Fair enough if he wants you both to watch it and you don't mind watching it too.

[Mercy]

YANBU. I would be really annoyed actually.

I'm sure my dh does look sometimes but he knows my views on the subject.

[nickytwotimes]

I wouldn't agree with the not hurting anyone statement, tbh. Many people involved in the porn business are "hurt" even though they are consenting adults. And some people feel uncomfortable with the way it portrays women and then leaks into the mainstream (see: rap/other music videos, pimp culture, etc!) And there's you of course!

[cory]

Just because it is "for us" you don't have to feel pressurised to go along with it. Sex should be about what both partners can feel good about. Fyi I wouldn't like this either.

[chinchi]

Thanks for all your replies! Im glad its not only me who feels like that!
The weird thing is, is that Ive not always felt like that about porn, in fact I did quite enjoy it before.
Lately though, I just have no interest in sex, never mind anything else that comes with it!
It has started to bother me abit really as Im only 23 and dont want to end up shying away from sex for the rest of my life!

[LIZS]

how can it be for your sake, collectively, when he's doing it alone

[chinchi]

Maybe should have written it better- he downloads the stuff to watch when were DTD

[Flibbertyjibbet]

But you weren't dtd, you were asleep and he was watching it.

[chinchi]

Yes youre right.

Its eating away at me sooooo much!

Bloody men and their hormones/manhood/need for porn

Swines