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AIBU?

to be mad that dh hasn't heard the outcome of a job interview

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EsmeWeatherwax · 12/02/2008 17:40

DH went for the second (and final) part of a job interview yesterday, and was told quite unequivocally that they would be getting in touch one way or the other by the end of today. They haven't. Now obviously he hasn't got the job, but it really, really pisses me off that they can't take the time out their day to just tell him that, and then we can get back to the normal mundane misery of long term unemployment, (he was made redundant last may) as opposed to the gut wrenching waiting game, which we have played numerous times over the intervening months. I hate this. So stressful.

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HonoriaGlossop · 12/02/2008 18:19

that is so difficult Esme

I agree it sounds like he hasn't got the job - but it is really discourteous of them not to let him know as soon as possible.

FWIW though, my DH had to wait literally WEEKS for the result of his interview - and he got the job!

So there's always hope. Sometimes it's just Human Resources not talking to the Dept involved.

What sort of company was it - a big one? Big enough to have an ineffectual HR dept??

2childrenandit · 12/02/2008 18:23

Am in a similar situation here at the moment - and dh keeps making me phone up to see if applications arrived, to check if they phoned with interview/job offers, and he keeps making up excuses for me to ring (problems with internet, had to take dc out, was visiting mil etc) would it be worth calling them int he morning, saying just wondered if they had tried to contact your dh and thanking them for time, possibly asking a question that has 'come to him' ..... least that was you knwo the answer and can move on to the next attempt.

kindersurprise · 12/02/2008 18:25

Hmm, difficult but perhaps they have offered the job to someone else and are waiting to see if he accepts.

Still bad manners though

somersetmum · 12/02/2008 18:27

It is hard, but I would work on the no news is good news principle.
Both dh and I have been for interviews in the past where they have taken longer than they said to feedback. We had both given up, but we both got the jobs.

EsmeWeatherwax · 12/02/2008 20:09

Honoria, I think they're big enough, and am hoping against hope that its just that they haven't got their act together.
2children, I would personally have phoned, but dh is of the fairly shy type (part of the reason I'm so worried about him) and would just not consider doing such a thing, or at least not without a shedload of nagging, lol, which I think is the last thing he needs at the moment.

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cmotdibbler · 12/02/2008 20:13

It took DHs company 5 weeks to tell him that he had his current job - it was an internal transfer, and he was the only candiate.
For my job it took them 6 weeks to call me !

scottishmummy · 12/02/2008 20:20

EsmeWeatherwax - let your dh sleep on it. phone in morning ask for feedback on interview (most employers will do this. NHS do)it is regular to
give feedback when asked for by candidate. it can be painful to hear and has an ouch factor.but if delivered constructively gives invaluable information, feedback, appraisal of how candidate came across etc

i do hope things improve, and that your dh secures a good post

best wishes

bitofadramaqueen · 12/02/2008 20:23

It's frustrating but it does happen. Sometimes if its really close between a couple of candidates then those making the decision unexpectedly decide to sleep on it.

It could also be that they have offered it to someone and waiting to find out if they accept before 'turning down other candidates'. This is common if there are quite a few good candidates and they plan to offer the number 2 choice if number 1 turns it down.

Also, in defence of efficient HR departments can I just say that it could be the case of the department/manager not talking to HR .

tribpot · 12/02/2008 20:26

It does sound as if they are waiting for the successful candidate to agree, I'm very sorry to say. I was offered a job recently and initially wanted a further convo with the line manager before agreeing it, which sadly meant the unsuccessful candidate had to wait an extra day until we'd done that (Even more sadly (a) it was the other guy in my team and (b) he found out on his birthday).

Very poor form of them to say it would definitely be today when they must have known it would depend on the successful candidate agreeing.

On the other hand, who knows, maybe this means he is still in play! Fingers crossed for you - if not this time then soon.

Bangandthedirtisgone · 12/02/2008 20:39

Yes, that is really annoying, and rude. It's horrible being left in limbo like that.

YANBU.

bookwormmum · 12/02/2008 20:41

Fingers crossed for your DH. I second the other posters who've had longish delays to hear - no news is good news as they say.

Lukesmammy · 13/02/2008 21:02

Hmmm - read this and felt I had to respond, am a HR Officer currently on maternity leave so wanted to express my anger at your situation.

So many companies do this - promise to notify a candidate by a certain timeframe and then fail to live up to their promises (not one I've worked for I hasten to add!) It's terrible and sometimes they really don't seem to realise the anxiety and general stress the whole interview process can place on an individual and their family.

I agree with the posters, it does sound as though maybe they are waiting to hear from a successful candidate, however, don't take that as a given.

I have been in many situations where I have interviewed, expected to make a decision at the end of the day and then internal situations have come up - i.e being notified that another staff member from that area is leaving therefore do we want to recruit another of the candidates in addition. This can then result in loads of red tape and additional review. There are loads of potential reasons why decisions can be delayed. Deffo agree with dramaqueen - in my experience this is the most common reason for late feedback!

I know this doesn't help your DH but all may not be lost just yet!

Has he heard anything yet? If not, I would definitely recommend that he contact them - he won't be seen as pushy and any decent HR Rep will be happy to discuss his situation.

EsmeWeatherwax · 13/02/2008 21:11

Thank you so much for your replies, found out today dh didn't get the job. Back to the drawing board. I really should know better than to be upset at such things, as I have also been in the same situation more than once, but neither of us has ever faced this unemployment situation before, and stress and frustration levels are rising. Fortunately we're ok moneywise at the moment, but won't be forever, which is starting to look exactly how long its going to be before he gets a job. Thanks again anyway, I really appreciate it!

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scottishmummy · 13/02/2008 21:16

sorry how disapointing for you both.try not be too disheartened

kayzisbroody · 13/02/2008 21:16

I'm really sorry your dh didnt get the job, they really should've got back to him quicker.
My friend applied for a job and got a letter 2 years after to say he hadnt got the job.

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