my twins are almost 3 and I'm getting increasingly frustrated/annoyed about the amount of help (or non-help) we get from my parents and my DH's mum.
My parents both work full-time so I don't expect any help during the week obviously but at weekends they don't visit or offer to take the twins at all. I've been quite ill for the past few weeks and cos my husband works pretty much 7 days a week have struggled but have had no offer of help and I really don't like to ask to be honest (maybe this is my problem?!)
I just sometimes feel as if they are really not interested in their grandchildren and are missing seeing them grow up. We only live 30 minutes away FGS. We do go to visit them but have stopped going as often as we used to as it is such a fiasco. My parents have nothing at their house for the girls apart from a box of toys that I gave them (bought from ebay by me!). I have to literally take everything i need when we go round there which is a right military operation.
They have never had the twins for a day or a night without us staying there too apart from once when they were 6 mths old and we went to a wedding. My mum did broach the subject of maybe having one of the twins for a day/night alternatively say once a month but that was about 9 months ago and nothing ever actually happened about it.
Last night we stayed over cos we went to a party local to their house and I had to take all the girls dinner, juice etc cos they don't have anything in i can give the girls. They don't help get them ready for bed or anything... this morning was even worse, the girls woke up at 7am which was fine but my husband had to go to work but my parents then both decided to take the dog for a long walk and then when they got back they had to get ready to drive and see my Grandad so I didn't have any help this morning when I was trying to pack up and get the 3 of us ready to go in a non-child proofed house! AAGGHH!
sorry i am waffling now.. i am just getting v frustrated with the situation but i don't know how to broach it. I used to be REALLY close to my mum and speak to her at least twice a week but now I don't really speak to her at all cos I am so annoyed with her. It's almost like they think well we didn't have much help when you were a kid so we're not helping you.
any advice? am i being unreasonable? how much help do others get from their parents?
MIL is just as bad but she is on her own and has always said she doesn't get on with children (!)
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to think that my parents could help out a bit more with their (only) grandchildren??
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nvj · 10/02/2008 11:09
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