This may be long as it's quite a complicated situation, also please be gentle with me as I can't handle more stress.
Last September my dad was diagnosed with advanced secondary cancer. He's undergone radiotherapy and chemo but we've been told to expect 6 months. Dad is very tired, weak and wheelchair bound.
DP and I got engage last spring and set a date in 2009. In light my dad's illness we have bought the wedding forward to April.
DP's family is huge, to make the wedding as stress free as possible we are having a very intimate wedding with just our respective parents.
All of DP's family (bar MIL) are accepting of the situation, we're having an engagement party so all family and friends can be involved in the festivities (dad will most likely not be able to attend).
MIL (who I normally get on with), has today said it's really sad that her brother is not going to be at the wedding. She really want him there and thinks it would be perfectly ok to invite just him but not his grown up children, MIL's sister (they're not close) or any of FIL's sisters.
I (and DP but he feels sorry for his mum) don't feel comfortable with this, as it feels wrong to exclude all but one member of the family (plus his wife obviously).
MIL is not really putting any pressure on us or demanding her brother be there but she does suffer with depression and gets quite upset that she doesn't see more of her brother (lives away) so we're worried that his will be hanging over us until the wedding.
DP explained to her today that it wouldn't be fair to invite and no one else, especially as we see more of FIL's sisters as they live closer. She seemed to understand but I know she'll start getting upset again.
Am I / Are we being unreasonable to not inviting UIL. It's going to be a very bittersweet day as it is and I don't think I could cope with extra guests that I barely know.
I need to pop out now but will check back later for any comments.
TIA
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
..to not invited Uncle in law to wedding given my dad's illness
16 replies
PussInBootsWithClaws · 07/01/2008 19:51
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.