at dp's need for ridiculous amounts of sleep?

[fizzbuzz]

I usually get up with dd. She isn't an early riser, about 8.00am.

When dp gets up with her, he has to have a 2 hour nap during the day to recover

Am really pissed off with this, but he just says he's tired and has a cold, but he does it all the time. Am fed up with it, but can't say why.

In fact he seems to need a nap every day......but won't go to bd early

[fizzbuzz]

Yes, and so do I

[fizzbuzz]

Yes, we've discussed it a LOT! He gets defensive, but then agrees it is wrong.

Then immediately goes back to his old ways

[bigmyrrhstrikesagain]

I sympathise Fizz as my dp is also very prone to having daytime naps especially if he has a cold and always if he gets up with the dc's (they are generally up between 6-7am). I am always up with the kids and don't get to nap but 0frequently fall asleep when putting dd to bed between 7-8pm!

My dh has a long commute to work (90mins each way) - so i think he ses wknds and holidays as a time to get some extra sleep - he also rarely goes to bed before midnight. It does rile me but I am not sure if I should get worked up aboout - I need to assert my need for breaks and lie-ins and not get worked up about his as I am sure he feels equally entitled as he works hard too.

Communication is probably the key here - I am very prone to resenting things that dh does without telling him - and this is not the way to resolve things

Not sure if that is helpful? But can you talk to your dh about this?

[Ripeberry]

God i need a nap!. Last night i went to bed at 10.30am, just as i started to nod off our DD2 started to cry, so i had to sit with her for 15 mins, then the wind kept waking me up in the night.#
Our DD2 started to cry at 2am (like she always does), asked hubby to see to her, he sits with her for 5 mins then she cries again 30 mins later!
Took her into our bed and by 3.30am she had managed to kick DH out of bed so he had to go and sleep on the floor of her bedroom and i got woken at 4.30 by kicking, yes you guessed it, she was sprawled acrross the bed i had hardly any space.
Owing to an eye injury that i received last year, if i open my eyes too quick it means my right eye starts to water non-stop and its impossible to get back to sleep.
I had to get up at 5.30am anyway so got up just before 5am and left for work at 6.30am, just done a 7hour shift.
Thank goodness DH has the girls today and he has gone out with them.
Soooo tired!
AB

[Ripeberry]

Oh yes, and i've got a stinking cold starting as well .

[fizzbuzz]

I'm not suprised you need a nap after that! Anyone would!

But dp gets a full nights sleep and still needs a nap. He has admitted that he needs 9 hours per night. BUT he still goes to bed at midnight, whereas I tend to go earlier as I know I will have to get uo with dd.

I would love to go to bed at midnight......

[IsawSusiekissingSantaClaus]

Sounds very frustrating. I do know that some people just do need a lot more sleep than others. My best friend and my brother are both like this. They can both easily go for 13 hours a night and if they don't get enough you can REALLY tell. So he could be genuine...? Which doesn't necessarily nake it less frustrating.

Hope your cold gets better soon.

[mazzystar]

I need a lot of sleep, get grumpy and unco-ordinated if I don't get it, BUT I get my ass into bed way before midnight and have trained our kids to be lazy blighters like me so they rarely care to get up before 8.30.

You could try to strike a deal over the holidays - he can nap if/when dd does, you'll share early mornings and why not just take him to bed with you when you go? Same at weekends. Agree you will both have a couple of hours to yourself. If he chooses to spend his asleep that's his lookout. I'm sure you can think of something more fun to do with your time!

[chocchipchristmascake]

My DH is exactly the same. Actually he is asleep now!!!

We agreed he would get up with the baby today and ^&*% me that is the day she slept in 'til 8.45am!!!

He needs more bloody nap time than the baby.

[lovecattlearelowing]

Oh, this is sickeningly familiar - I actually asked DH if he was ill on Thursday as he disappeared to sleep for 3 hours because he'd had to get up 'early' (7.30) with DD to let me sleep (I have a stinking cold) so he 'deserved' it - ????

He gets very resentful if I pick him up on it, I get 1 lie in a week normally, and the MINUTE I get up (usually around 8.30 as I can't stand the screaming from downstairs) he disappears for an hour because he hasn't been able to smoke, and then snores on the sofa all afternoon because he's so tired... he's another one who stays up all night on the pc (worse since I foolishly got him an ipod, now he's on a mission to put his entire record collection onto the damn thing) and then moans he's soooo tired.

He's snoring downstairs now...

[chocchipchristmascake]

Sunday Update. DH got up with the baby at 8.00am today so he has now gone for a nap.

[Anna8888]

If people need to nap in the day, it is because they are very tired.

But of course the first thing to do is to go to bed earlier and sleep longer nights.

[FrannyandZooey]

so what time is he going to bed?

[Eeek]

"If people need to nap in the day, it is because they ar tired" Or depressed. A possibility? Or just pushing their luck.

[chocchipchristmascake]

THE SAME TIME AS ME!!! About 11. He gets at least an hour or two more than me every night because I get up with the baby 99% of the time in the morning.

He might be tired because he smokes, eats crap and takes no exercise???

[LadyOfWaffle]

Blimey, I have to nap during the day most days otherwise i'd keel over, just the way I am I guess. If someone came on here saying "I need a nap during the day and my DP tells me off for it" we would be up in arms lol.

[FrannyandZooey]

well some people do need more sleep than others, they aren't just making it up

but he obv needs to go to bed earlier, it is annoying for you

[chocchipchristmascake]

I would love a nap, LoW. Actually I am typing this leaning at a 45 degree angle.

[andaRubberDuckinapeartree]

Question: does he need so much sleep during the summer months?

If the answer is no, may he have SAD? I get to around October and find it REALLY hard to get out of bed in the morning, and sleep much longer hours, get tired very easily and lose interest in just about everything.

I'm very lucky that I have an understanding dh who finds it easy to get up in the mornings (in fact, he tends to get up an hour BEFORE the kids, does some work, then gets their breakfast sorted, etc).

This year, I've been helped a lot by getting a SAD light. The light helps to reset your body clock as well as give you an energy boost, and I've been able to push back my natural wake up time to earlier in the day. Might be worth investigating.

[chocchipchristmascake]

Please send me your DH for a week RD.

[andaRubberDuckinapeartree]

No, he's MINE

[chocchipchristmascake]

But we could swap, that's all (pleading voice).