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AIBU?

to think that we shouldnt pay for MIL's partner to go away?

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jojosmaman · 12/12/2007 11:55

I asked dp last night what we were buying for MIL for xmas and he said that we are putting together with the 2 bro's to pay for flight tickets to Dubai (she is off to a wedding there next year) which is fine- he does go OTT with his mum but she is very kind/ generous to us and ds so its ok.

But then he added that they would have to pay for her DP as well as obviously she is not going to go on her own. Is it just me or is that really too much??! We all paid for her for a weekend in a luxury London hotel last year and paid for MIL's DP's train tickets (and he stayed in her room obviously!) which he was really greatful for but I just think that paying for a flight to Dubai for them both is just too much! I know this sounds really mean and he is lovely but its just that he never pays for anything. If we take his mum out for a birthday/ mothers day meal, the bros' just pay for everyone between the three of them including her DP and he has never once in ten years said that he would pay this time.

To be fair I don't think he expects to be paid for but he doesnt exactly "put up a fight" iykwim.

What would you do?

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Bluestocking · 12/12/2007 11:58

I personally wouldn't contribute, and I'd be jolly hacked off if my DP dipped into our communal funds for this.

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ib · 12/12/2007 12:10

But it's not for him, is it? The gift is for your mil to go to dubai with her dp - if you all know that she would not want to go on her own and you give her a trip for one then you are giving her something she wouldn't want.

If it's too much money then maybe you can rethink and give her something else altogether.

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jojosmaman · 12/12/2007 12:50

Yes, the annoyance it not aimed at MIL or her DP its at my DP for thinking its a good idea for a pressie!! He is just being lazy and rather than go and traipse round looking for something, this seemed like the easy option.

And TBH I am not sure it is the best present, (mil would prob prefer to go on her own as they have an odd relationship, IMO she is still in love with her ex -15 years ago) but DP says she will only end up paying for them both anyway as she will feel she would have to go with him

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Bluestocking · 12/12/2007 13:26

Whose wedding is it? If it's one of her friends or family members then surely there will be lots of people there she knows. It might be nicer for her to go without her DP!

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jojosmaman · 12/12/2007 13:29

Oh yes, it is her best friends son so there will be plenty of people there with her, I think that she would want to show face tho and go with her DP in case people think she has fallen out with him.. she is an odd one to say the least, but lovely all the same!

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