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[amiunreasonable]

OK so I've name changed for this. Don't think the other mums in question are on here but I would hate for them to get the wrong idea about why I'm posting this if they are - I love them all dearly but genuinely think this is a little strange and would like to know if you agree or if I am just hormonal (ds2 born 10 weeks ago)

I am one of a group of 4 girls who met in antenatal class who all have boys. Last year we all did a bran tub type thing for Christmas pressies. This year when I enquired to one of the other mums what she thought we should do this year she came back to me and said that the other 2 had decided that we would each buy one of the boys a pressie so they got something good rather than 3 small things. All good so far. But they have decided that to make it easier that we will all buy the same thing and moreover that one of the mums will buy them all and we can give her the money.

Now I think Bran tub pressie type things are a good idea. I wouldn't even mind the situation where we each gave the others ideas about what our boys would like - sensible really as they all have hundreds of toys and although we see each other all the time it would be difficult to know you weren't getting something they had already. But to be told what we are buying like this seems odd. I don't see why they all have to have the same thing and we couldn't set a guide price so they all had the same kind of value if thats what is driving this. In addition the item chosen is about £25 so not cheap and is similar to a toy my ds has already and doesn't even play with that much.

Don't get me wrong - if he was given this as a surprise we would be very grateful but this just feels like we are giving £25 to buy our own child a toy that he won't even be that bothered about!

Am I being silly? This is a genuine question not a rant. And I know the mums involved will have genuinely thought this would be easier for me esp as I have just had a baby and might not have much time. And its a nice toy too that they will have thought about! I'm going to talk to the mum who is shopping later and tell her what I'm thinking but I wanted to get your thoughts first on whether I am being silly.

[amiunreasonable]

ignore this thread - forgot to put a title on (babybrain!) so have re posted it under 'funny bran tub pressie situation'.

If you've got this far thanks loads for your interest and I'd be interested in your thoughts on the other thread....

[TotalChaos]

YANBU. Does seem rather odd. Just say you don't want that toy and drop out gracefully.