To be fed up of 11yr old girl down the road giving me the "evils"

[Ripeberry]

OK may be getting a touch of PMT here but this girl is really getting on my wick.
I've lived on the estate for over 7yrs and she has been trouble even from a young age.
Going by what the other neighbours have said, (don't know if its true or not).
She has walked into peoples homes at age 5 and helped herself to food, even got locked in someone's house as she was hiding upstairs and the owners locked the house when they were hurrying to go on holiday...the keyholder had to let her out.
A few years later she has terrorised another neighbour so she was too scared to go out when this girl was around.
When i moved in she found it hilarious to do knock down ginger with her little brother for days at a time, until i found out where they hid...under the neighbours caravan.
Last year she was at it again but getting the younger more gullible kids to throw mud at my windows.
Again i went out and shouted at her but she just shrugged her shoulders and looked like butter would not melt in her mouth.
Not been too bad since she moved to secondary school as she can't bully my DD1 who is only 5yrs old.. and yes she did bully her when DD1 was in reception... just to get back at me.
Now she just likes to stare at me and not say a word and if i say "hello" she just pulls her tongue out..so childish.
So this morning when she was giving me the evils again i just said "Why can't you just say hello or smile once in a while like a normal girl?", she just rides off.
Think that girl has big problems, only met the Mum a couple of times and she is as strange as the daughter with everybody as well.
Should i try and be civl with this girl or just ignore totally?
AB

[Lauriefairycake]

I would try and befriend her, am shocked at her having to steal food

Sounds like she needs someone nice like you to show her how to act

[amytheearwaxbanisher]

she is probably just like that as a result of the mother/parents best to be civil if you ignore she may find ways to get your attention

[2shoescreepingthroughblood]

i would ignore her. my neighbour had problems with a girl who just seemed to take a dislike to her. the girl grew out of it in the end.
tbh there are some young people out there who are just not very nice.(we have quite a few round here)

[onescarymummy]

Explain knock down ginger?

[Ripeberry]

Knock down ginger is ringing or knocking peoples doors and hidding, keep doing it until you come to the door. Drives you crazy!
AB

[2shoescreepingthroughblood]

knock on the door and run away.
neighbourhood nutter found the best way to deal with that. he hid in the dusbin cupboard and jumped out .......ds was very amused

[onescarymummy]

Aah I see

LOL at 2shoes!

Keep your front window open & a water pistol handy

[WinkyWinkola]

I'd be so nice to her. I'd really try and befriend her. It's really hard to swallow one's pride but sounds like she's got it a bit tough.

[2shoescreepingthroughblood]

i always used to do that but it doesn't always work. some kids just get a kick out of giving you greif.

[ratclare]

oh i would be so cringingly sweet and jolly everytime i saw her , lots of heeelllloooo how are you ? hows school ? gosh arnt you growing up ,dont you look smart in your school uniform etc etc ,completely ignore any evils and she will get bored or run away when she sees you coming

[oliveoil]

she sounds like she has had a shit upbringing tbh and needs help and/or some kindness

I would try and be civil and nice

[JoFan]

a friend of mine had problems with lads gathering outside his office in the evenings causing minor damage and dropping litter. he tried lots of things to deter them including asking the police to cruise by from time to time to scare them off but it didn't work.

one day he started chatting to them and explained he'd been having problems, but could see they were responsible lads and would they mind 'keeping an eye out' for trouble - they could be his 'security'.

they seemed pleased to be given some responsibility and he never had problems again.

my point is he chatted to them, got them 'on side' and it solved his problem.

maybe this could be adapted to help you?

[LittleMissNervoustWitch]

i had a similar experience with a neighbours child about 10 yrs ago, she would ride up my drive on her bike right past my front window and just stare at me whenever i went out, she picked on my ds and was downright nasty and cheeky, i tried everything, being nice, telling her parents etc... in the end i
completely ignored her like she was invisible and she eventually got bored (or grew up) and stopped doing it.

[Mij]

I like the being 'overly' nice approach, although I guess it depends on how much you're willing to put into it.

It's a bit like the Derren Brown way of making sure no-one sits next to you on the train: don't pile your bags onto it, but make eye contact with the people going past, smile, and pat the seat invitingly. He says no-one will come near you! Have never had the guts to try it...

[casbie]

that's my evil way of getting back at people..

smile really jolly and blow kisses!

(especially those twats who drive up your arse and then flash lights as they take a dangerous overtake).



but, you'll get a reputation then!

[Elizabetth]

You know if she went into people's houses to take food it might be because she was hungry. Same with hiding in other people's houses - that's very unusual for a child. Imagine what she must have been hiding from.

Sounds like she has a lot of problems.

[WinkyWinkola]

[Yurtgirl]

If possible I think I would try to befriend her - a lot of her behaviour is attention seeking, so maybe a little love and a chat would help her

Just a thought!