this is a long one but my sil died in feb at 34 leaving behind a 13 year old daughter, mt brother is not her blood father but has cared for her since she was about 18 months and he has now got full leagal custody of her.
my problem is that although my brother acted as her father he has had a lot to lkearn over the past few months about 13 year old girls as my sil did most of the parenting. when she was dying i promised her that i will be there for her daughter and i feel that i have done my best to keep this promise. i sort of feel that this gives me a right to look out for her welfare and i am becoming increasingly worried about the crap that her nanna ( her mums mum) is telling her. they have always been a weird family but she has started telling my niece that
1.she has "seen" her mum in my neices bedroom window. she was apparently looking up at the window and she saw her as she looked as a 8 year old girl. ( i think this a bit creepy)
2. that my brother is sleeping with a friend of his wifes that is just out to rob him of his money ( this may be true but why burden a child who has just lost her mum with this sort of adult crap)
3. that she is at hight riisk of getting cervical cancer ( this is what her mum dies of ) and that she should now be going for smears even though she is only 13 and has only started her periods last week
4. that her mother was worried about how well my brother would be able to look after her when she died and that she should not help him aroud the house as she should not be a slave to housework.
i done know if i am over reacting but i realy dont think this is all very helpfull.
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pud1 · 19/10/2007 10:20
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