Can't decide if I'm being a sour-faced old boot (probably am)

[Moomin]

because dh is getting a bit of a social life going at the moment. He's a fab dh and dad, does more than his fair share of chores, kids, boring stuff etc.

REcently he joined the working mens club (yes ) which we had a kind of sarcastic joke about in that it has no female toilets because women aren't allowed and I said i'd report them to the European Court of Human Rights, but I didn;t mind really. It's local, it's very cheap and he goes with our next door neighbour for a game of pool or darts or whatever. He loves it in a kind of post-modern way, in that he knows it's an old man's haunt but he also genuinely enjoys it too. No problem with that...

But it's turning into a weekly thing, popping out for one of the weekend nights...

and now he's joined the snooker club there which will mean a THursday night playing matches every fortnight...

and he plays footy on a wed night and then goes to the pub for an hour...

and he's joining a sunday league footy team as well for sunday mornings...

and he sees his friends once every 3 or 4 weeks for a curry or night out.

and I'm starting to feel a bit lonely. If I want to go out he's fine with it and will always give my night priority over his, but I only go out once a month, if that.

oh and also he plays golf and plays in matches once a month on a wednesday, which he can often wangle as his day off - but it's also my day off as well so we don't spend it together. IT feels churlish to moan at him but it is making me a bit unhappy. It's not like he;s left me loads of jobs to do for the morning or anything - I just get fed up sat here on me tod!

[ChantillyLace]

I think it's understandable that you would feel a little miffed and left out. To some extent it's lovely for him to have a life outside of home (I wish my old man did)but can relate totally to you being so fed up. My dh doesnt have a social life and he's always here which is not always a good thing! Mine is, like yours, a fantastic husband and father, does his share of the chores, does the shopping but it's easy for me to say I'd be happy if he went out - cos he doesnt!

Is it possible for you to get out and about (if you can fit in around his crowded diary) and feel a little more human yourself?

Having said all that it does seem that as helpful as he is you are being left alone rather a lot.

So in brief (although I havent been) I don't think YABU

[ChantillyLace]

Oh and as far as Working Mens Clubs go.......they stink!!! I was told once that I was not allowed to go into one! Ahem! I pushed straight past the guy on the door and stood at the bar demanding a drink as it was my right and I even used the mens room! ewwww! They were speechless!

[ScottishMummy]

working mens clubs - i think Phoenix nights

my experience of them is anachronistic backward thinking sweaty cliquey hell holes and females are associate members eg no full voting rights etc.lotsa dragging the pentangle and goat away if any strangers around

[Moomin]

I know, it's like something off the Wicker man

Sorry, I was being a dullard last night and posted the start of this thread twice so I did all my other posts on the other one with the same name - wasn't ignoring you - promise!