I have two DS 3 1/2 and 2 1/2. The older one is a complete drama queen, funny and chatty. My other son is at the moment going through test as he is on the Autistic spectrum, anyhoo he is lovely, loving and kissy. But doesn't talk,point, or communicate at all really. He and his brother fight as all boys etc do, but because he cant talk his way out of a fight he bites, or tries too. Anyway my mother inlaw will take the older one to hers to stay or out for a shopping trip but she makes no effort with the younger one blaming the fact she doesnt know what he wants. Now as grandparents they have only just started seeing the older one and having him to stay. But what do I tell the younger one if and when he asks y he cant go? Also the other day while she was here the boys were fighting, the older drama queen cried like he was being killed and nana ran to his ad, making a comment about meds needed to calm the younger one down. Gosh I flashed red so mad. The older one was not hurt or bittern. I tried to explain that the older one often picks on the younger oen and vice versa. Sorry to go on nearly done... so later that night she made a comment on the phone to my DH that the younger one should go into care to give the older one a break and that he should go on meds to make him less.... my feelings are I give both boys attendtion and yes some days it will seem I spend more time on one or the other, but I would never see any of them hurt each other, at the same time I want others to treat them the same. I dont know what I want from this post... maybe just to vent how upsetting it is too hear that someone thinks of my younger son as an animal or something thats need drugging or locking away. He is low on the spectrum and a lovelt child and the older one is just lovely too, why cant his own grandparents see this. why are they stuck in the 60's where if someone is different they should be locked away. Makes me cry and scream. Oh i am so upset.
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boysandtoria · 30/08/2007 13:32
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